Post # 1
I am getting concerned about these Wedding Showers — there are people invited that I’m afraid I will not recognize for various reasons (never met them, haven’t seen them in years, only seen them a time or two, and then the ones I should know but just don’t).
When I open a gift and look up to say thank you and have no clue who the person is –Where do I look? What should I do?
Post # 3
I say invite only close friends and family to the guestlist, there is no point having a bunch of people whom you don’t know at your shower. If you have old family members or new parts of your Fi’s family coming, in the begining of the shower people tend to mingle so go around introduce yourself. Also most of the time when I handed gifts over to the bride I say its from Jane, and everyone tend to look in that persons direction. You can say thanks at the end of all the gifts and write thankyou notes later.
Post # 4
This very issue is coming up for me today. Today is my shower with FI’s family. I know most people, but there are a few I don’t know. I’m a little afraid of this (especially because I’m awful with names), but am hoping the # of people I don’t know is small enough that I can figure it out (don’t know who is actually invited hahaha). My other thought is that I am hoping the room where the shower is, is setup so that I can sort of look all around the room. We shall see though.
Post # 5
@bestwishes: I knew everyone at my shower but, when I first came in I walked around said hello to everyone and spent time at each table just like I would at the wedding. You could do this and then if you realize there are a few people you don’t know or recognize you can ask someone you are comfortable with privately (mother, aunt, Father-In-Law, etc.)
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
Haha okay I just had my shower last week and I come from a HUGE family who I don’t see that often so I’m not always able to place names with the faces.
When I opened a gift and I didn’t know who it was from I would just say, “Oh this is from Aunt Jane… where is Aunt Jane?! I can’t see you!!” And said Aunt Jane would wave and I would wave back and say thank you.
Okay yes, this is very sneaky and probably only works with a larger shower (mine had about 40 people), but it worked and now I know who Aunt Jane is! 😉
Post # 7
@coyote: Talk about thinking on your feet! Smart move!
OP, I’ve read other threads that suggest having someone who knows everyone sit next to you and help with the gifts while they whisper a description and seating location of the person who gave it to you.
Post # 8
I had this problem too, but I resolved it by having someone next to me who knew everyone (aka SO’s mom) so she could help guide me haha. Make sure when people come in that you greet them and use their names, that helps too.