Post # 1
So yesterday I came home and there was a big box on the front porch and a smaller bag. I pulled them inside and opened them. The big box was a Kitchen Aid mixer (yay!) from someone that is not coming to the shower (she wasn’t invited because she lives out of town) and a sheet set from a friend that is coming to the shower. Neither were gift wrapped, so I opened them. What’s the protocol here? Do I need to put the sheets back in the bag and bring them to the shower since that person will be there? My mom said I shouldn’t have opened either of them… I didn’t know! Do I need to put the mixer back in the box and bring it to the shower? My mom said you are supposed to display these things because everyone wants to see what you got. What did y’all do?
Post # 3
@aggiemae: I’ve been to one shower where sent gifts were open & on display. It felt super weird, like we were supposed to walk over and ooo and ahhh over them.
At my sister’s baby shower my uncle gave her a small gift… but had already sent the CRIB over to her apartment! So she just opened his gift and said thank you for that and the crib, so his bigger gift was acknowledged. That definitely felt more natural. If I were you, I’d do that and maybe if someone who is close to the KitchenAid gifter is there you can tell them something like “Oh, and your mom was so generous with her gift….” during the present opening.
Or do what your mom says…. if that is “what is done” in your circle it’s best to just go with it.
Post # 4
@aggiemae: If the person who gave you the sheets is coming to the shower, you could bring the sheets with you to unveil with the other gifts. I wouldn’t worry about bringing the kitchenaid (awesome!) because they won’t be at the shower.
Post # 5
Speaking as a bride, I wouldn’t want to transport them to the shower location. That is just that one more step that could end with torn/broken presents.
I would make a mention, espeicaly to the person attending your shower, of what you got. I don’t think anyone other than the person who will be attending will care. While it’s interesting to see what people get, thats not the reason I go to a shower. I go because I love the bride and want to socialize with other people who will be there.
Post # 6
@Misswhowedding: +1 Agree here. Don’t bring them to the shower, but be sure the publicly thank the attendee who sent early. Might be nice to mention the mixer if someone who’s close with the out of towner will be attending, too.
And I disagree with your mom – you should be opening things up. How else will you know if they’ve arrived intact or not? If there’s a problem with the gift, it’s good to identify it ASAP so you can get it resolved sooner than later. You just shouldn’t be using shower/wedding gifts until after the wedding, as far as I’ve heard.
Post # 7
@DomesticDiva: I’ve heard that I shouldn’t use them, but that’s just too bad haha. I will almost surely use them before the wedding. This marriage is happening, dammit! LOL
Post # 8
@aggiemae: If they wanted you to wait until the shower to open them, they would have made sure you received them AT the shower… or so I think! I would send them a thank you note (for the one not attending) and thank the person who will attend at the shower (and also send a thank you note if you’re sending them to everyone from the shower)
Post # 8
aggiemae: I wouldn’t bring the gifts with you. Maybe just bring the cards and acknowledge it?