Shower/wedding gifts before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@aggiemae:  I’ve been to one shower where sent gifts were open & on display. It felt super weird, like we were supposed to walk over and ooo and ahhh over them. 

At my sister’s baby shower my uncle gave her a small gift… but had already sent the CRIB over to her apartment! So she just opened his gift and said thank you for that and the crib, so his bigger gift was acknowledged. That definitely felt more natural. If I were you, I’d do that and maybe if someone who is close to the KitchenAid gifter is there you can tell them something like “Oh, and your mom was so generous with her gift….” during the present opening. 

Or do what your mom says…. if that is “what is done” in your circle it’s best to just go with it. 

Post # 4
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@aggiemae:  If the person who gave you the sheets is coming to the shower, you could bring the sheets with you to unveil with the other gifts.  I wouldn’t worry about bringing the kitchenaid (awesome!) because they won’t be at the shower.

Post # 5
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Speaking as a bride, I wouldn’t want to transport them to the shower location.  That is just that one more step that could end with torn/broken presents. 

I would make a mention, espeicaly to the person attending your shower, of what you got.  I don’t think anyone other than the person who will be attending will care.  While it’s interesting to see what people get, thats not the reason I go to a shower.  I go because I love the bride and want to socialize with other people who will be there. 

Post # 6
2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Misswhowedding:  +1  Agree here.  Don’t bring them to the shower, but be sure the publicly thank the attendee who sent early.  Might be nice to mention the mixer if someone who’s close with the out of towner will be attending, too.

And I disagree with your mom – you should be opening things up.  How else will you know if they’ve arrived intact or not?  If there’s a problem with the gift, it’s good to identify it ASAP so you can get it resolved sooner than later.  You just shouldn’t be using shower/wedding gifts until after the wedding, as far as I’ve heard.

Post # 8
1634 posts
Bumble bee

@aggiemae:  If they wanted you to wait until the shower to open them, they would have made sure you received them AT the shower… or so I think! I would send them a thank you note (for the one not attending) and thank the person who will attend at the shower (and also send a thank you note if you’re sending them to everyone from the shower)

Post # 8
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

aggiemae:  I wouldn’t bring the gifts with you. Maybe just bring the cards and acknowledge it?

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