Post # 1
Ok, so a bridal shower is being planned for me, and my Mom is asking me about a registry. I don’t know what to do.
FH and I need BIG things – furniture, light fixtures, that kind of thing. Things people don’t really buy you (or maybe a couple of close relatives get together on). We only need a few smaller ‘gifty’ things – a new coffee maker, some new pans, a new duvet, new sofa covers….and not a heck of a lot else.
-register at one place and try and come up with more things I will probably need later?
-register at a few places and do up a webpage with links (save guests the hassle of going to a particular store only to find I need 3 things from there)?
-not register at all and take whatever comes my way with gratitude?
Post # 3
you would be amazed at all the little things you don’t think about until you need them. My FH and I bought a house in December and we are still thinking of things we need. If you put bigger things on the list, people may get you gift cards….a fe gift cards from the same place = bigger gifts. Take a good inventory of what you do have. I am sure you will think of ten more things you could use.
Post # 4
Hmm, can you possibly register somewhere that sells the furniture stuff you want? And put some of it on your registry? You never know, people might chip in togehter and get some for you. Or, you could register for the things you don’t need, check out the place’s return policy, and then exchange all your goodies for the things you really want. Maybe that’s bad but does anyone need to know?? Macy’s puts your returns back onto your Macy’s charge if you have one, so then you could get furniture from there. Just a thought!
Post # 5
register, but only register for a few things. when the list runs out, people will give you cash, checks, and gift cards. not registering is an invitation for a rooster covered cheese board…true story. or set up a ‘house fund’ or ‘honeymoon fund’. there are some instructions on how to do this on weddingbee…
Post # 6
Make sure you have a few things you might want on your registry. In my experience, if you don’t, you’ll get trinkets and stuff that people think you want. You can also put larger items on the registry as well. Would you consider a registry at a home improvement store? That’s another option.
Post # 7
Thanks guys. Some good ideas!
For our wedding we are really hoping for cash – I know that sounds bad but if you call it a ‘fund’ of some sort it makes sense. That, we could put towards whatever bigger or more difficult-to-buy things, or renos.
For the shower, I would like to register for a few things at a few different places, and my Mom was going to set it up on a blog page so people can see before going. Is that anal/greedy or just a neat, modern idea? I’m not sure. But I would like to avoid the rooster-covered cheese board….if only because people shouldn’t waste their money! 🙂
Post # 8
Register for china, silverware, crystal and other wedding things like that at the same place where you want to get your big things. I know it may sound rude, but it is completely ok to just return the stuff you don’t want for the stuff you do need. Also, your mother can discretely tell your shower hostesses that you really are saving up for furniture, etc. They will pass the information along to your guests.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
My MOH had a shower for a large item she wanted. The hostess of the shower indicated on the invitation that it was a "Kitchen Table" shower and everyone brought a card with some $ that they could put toward this big-ticket item that they registered for. They ended up getting enough for the table and all but 2 chairs!
Post # 10
Maybe ask for gift cards from a certain place where you want the big things.
Post # 11
Lowe’s has a gift registry, so that might help with some of the light fixtures, etc. stuff. Otherwise, let mom know that gift cards to other big ticket places might be nice. She can relay this to the guests, or the person throwing the shower(s) can do this.
Post # 12
We’ve registered for some kitchen stuff and china, but we’re letting people know discretely that we love Home Depot and cash!
Also, some places (like Williams-Sonoma) do have furniture and I think you can put it on your registry – I would totally buy someone a lamp over a placesetting.