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Hello Bees! I recently got engaged and I'm SO excited!! One of the best parts about being engaged is showing off your ring, especially to your friends and family. I only got to show my ring so far to my immediate family and my maid of honor and I've been a little hurt and sad over how they reacted.
Now my mom, the only thing she's ever said was that it's small and its too yellow. And my maid of honor, she didn't even respond!! She just looked at the ring and changed subjects.
I understand that people have different tastes and styles. I feel like no matter how ugly it is, I would share in the happiness and offer some sort of compliment ("It's gorgeous, beautiful, pretty..."). I LOVE my ring and I just feel a little let down from the people I love. Sorry this was so long!!
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Justengaged, I am sure your ring is stunning! I'm sorry people have been hurtful. The important thing is that you love your ring, but more importantly, your future husband!
I too am sure your ring is stunning! It a shame that your mom and MOH couldn't see how important it is to you.
Can we see a picture?
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I'm sorry to hear that! I definitely had a hard time when people didn't show as much enthusiasm as I was feeling. The good news is the hive is the perfect place to get that lovey feeling! I'd love to see a picture of your beautiful ring 
Aww that stinks that those people didn't show their enthusiasm how you had hoped! I think sometimes people's own personal tastes get in the way. Instead of being excited for what the ring stands for (that you are getting married to your love), people pick something to be jealous about or react negatively to. All that matters is that you are going to be spending your life with the man you love, and he took the time and effort to get you a beautiful symbol for his committment to you.
You can show it off to us! We'll be happy to see it!
As far as the mean comments, peoples' negative reactions to your wedding are always about THEM, never about you. I'm remembering the bee on another board who just posted that someone took one look at her sapphire and said, "Oh, can't afford a diamond?" Don't worry about them, they're nuts!
Congratulations on your engagement!
That's not cool! Post a picture on here! I promise the bees will give you all the compliments you could need! I'm sure it's GORGEOUS, regardless of whether it fits *my* taste! And congratulations!
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People can be obnoxious!
My cousin got a gorgeous 1ct diamond ring- the setting had been the groom's grandmothers and my aunt did was say that it was too small! Mind you my uncle had gotten my aunt's ring overseas (in the 1970s) and it was so big people thought it was fake! So maybe she has a skewed perspective?
My mom also had a bad reaction to my sister's ring. She and her FI purchased it together since they are relatively young and don't have a lot of money. My sister chose to sacrifice color and clarity for size and she loves her ring. Thankfully my mom kept her mouth shut in front of my sister and just complained to me about how crappy the stone was.
I think if you don't have a ring that is something they would have chosen a lot of mothers will just say flat out they don't like it. It's like their brains shut off and mean, inappropriate stuff comes out of their mouths!
You aren't alone in this, but please, please, please try hard to put it behind you and not let it put a damper on your hapiness and planning! It's not about the ring- it's about the marriage! You're getting married! Celebrate!!!
That sucks and I'm sorry your mom and MOH had such odd reactions to seeing your ring. I don't want to speculate the reason for their less than enthusiastic reactions (maybe jealously, maybe their own insecurities...who knows). Don't let it get you down and enjoy your engagement!
I received some weird reactions too. My phony "friend" who is very superficial made a big deal about wanting to see the ring, but when she saw it she said, "oh, that's cute" in a way that made it very clear she didn't think much of my ring. My aunt (who I love dearly) said something like, are you going to make him get you a bigger diamond later...I was like, what?!?! People are strange sometimes...
Congratulations on your engagement!!! The only person who needs to love your ring is you, so try not to let it bother you. Remember the love and thought that went into picking it out and giving it to you. Enjoy this time of your life, it is fabulous!
Congratulations on getting engaged!!! I agree with everyone who has commented that we are sorry you had a less than great reaction from mom and MOH. People kill me sometimes! I had a similar situation since my ring is very unique, people would open there big mouths and say, "that doesn't look like an E-ring," or "did you even help pick it out? I even had comments on my center stone being too small. At the end of the day, I LOVE my ring and my fiance even more than a piece of jewelery. This is a great site for support- now show us that beautiful ring and get excited about your wedding!
Thank you SO much for all the lovely, encouraging, fantabulous comments..truly refreshing. It is most definitely about your marriage at the end and not about the ring! You ladies are amazing! Here are some pictures of the ring. =)
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Ooooh! I love your ring! It reminds me of the Tiffany's Swing line, with all the different shapes of diamonds. No way is that "too yellow" or "too small"!! I am sure your ring will make plenty of other girls swoon with envy.
That ring is gorgeous!!! Plus it looks like it belongs on that finger. You've seen beautiful rings on the wrong hands before, right? That ring is stunning, and it looks fantastic on you!
That's a gorgeous ring. Beautiful. I loooooooooooove it. Honestly I'm worried about the same kind of lack of enthusiasm. I guess we can't expect other people to be excited about our awesome jewelry as we are... but it'd be nice if they'd at least TRY. Also I'm not sure why your mom thinks your ring is small - does she have some kind of huge movie-star rock? I think it's a perfect size for your finger, and it's definitely not small IMO!
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I have a girlfriend who started joking about hers after they're 5th anniversary, she says it's a Canarli diamond when she shows it off. Then laughs and says, "See you Can-hardly see it!" But Ms JustEngaged yours is hardly a Canarli diamond! Love the antique design.
Love it! I love the rings with the fun bands! So pretty. There is a post on the ring board here about what kind of wedding band to go along with it since you probably won't want to take away from the amazing design! You should check it out.
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-wedding-band-debate-1
That's realy weird (and uncool) that your family and friends reacted that way. Your ring is gorgeous. And even if it weren't it's symbolic and meaningful and no one should judge it.
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Your ring is really beautiful the diamond and band are stunning! Wear it with pride!! Congrats on your engagement!!
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That's gorgeous! I can't imagine why anyone wouldn't react enthusiastically about it! I love the band especially, kinda makes me wish mine weren't a plain band on my solitaire! But my wedding ring wouldn't work with that style so I'll be happy with mine. ^_^ But seriously, I love that!
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I also got disappointed responses after we announced our engagement. Friends would grab my hand and act so excited...then as soon as they saw my ring you could actually HEAR the energy drain out of them. I'd get muttered replies of "pretty" or "nice" that didn't sound even remotely genuine.
To some women, once you announce your engagement it's like some sort of competition kicks off. They need to see exactly what you're bringing to the table in order to decide where they stand. And if it's less than what they expect then it gives them license to be rude about it.
PS -- I have no idea what your mother or MOH were disappointed about because your ring is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! :)
Congratulations on your engagement ! Your ring is beautiful and very vintage/antique looking. Know that you cannot please everybody and people will always find SOMETHING to make negative comments about.
My ring is round solitaire and it's more on the bigger side and guess what, I keep getting grief for having "too big" of a stone. Best comment came from FMIL who didn't congratulate us on our engagement at all, then when she saw me said I had fat fingers ( I am size 8 band, however I am 5'9" and quite skinny, and definitely don't have big out of proportion hands and fingers).
i would NOT be disappointed with that ring... i like it... and..
CONGRAT!!
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Okay to be honest, in my first replied to your post up there, I was imagine a ring that would be a little easier for your mom and MOH to taunt you over. After seeing the photos, I simply think they are both just insane! Your ring is SO gorgeous, and I would love to wear it if I were you! I can't think of any reason why someone would truly dislike that ring!
I love that band! The whole setting is gorgeous and the square cut looks fabulous with it!! Yellow? What on earth is she talking about?? Girl, it looks beautiful!
They're crazy! Your ring is gorgeous!! I too have the same reaction from people. I got "It's pretty" reactions. I admit, my ring is not huge compared to others, but I really didn't give specifications to my FI when we got engaged! We never talked about it and he picked out a ring that is me. It's simple, pretty, and modest. I had to get over people's reactions and realize that my ring is fitting to me. I wouldn't have my ring any other way!
Oh, by the way, CONGRATS! Now the fun begins! :)
I think your ring is beautiful. I have a vintage-styled one too! You've got a winner there 
Congratulations!!!! I just got engaged 2/9/09!! You're ring is beautiful! You are "BLINGING" all around!!!!! All that matters is that you love it!!!! Congrats again!!!
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Congrats! This is such an exciting time!
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I really like your ring. The setting is definitely interesting and unique, and I think it complements your finger. And anyway, all that matters is that you love it!
Are they crazy?? That ring is soooo pretty! I love the detail in the band. Wear that ring with pride girl, and as long as you love it, THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS!! There could be any number of reasons why they didn't say what you'd hope they'd say, many outlined above. I love my ring since FI took so much time and put so much thought into and nothing that anyone can say will change my mind. Yours is wonderful and don't let anyone tell you differently
Wow! I have no idea what your mom was seeing when she saw your ring. It's really great! It certainly doesn't look small or yellow!
I think your FI did a great job picking it out!
I had to come back now that you've posted a picture and tell you that your ring is STUNNING! I have a vintage style ring which I love but your ring is making me a little jealous!!
Can't wait to hear what you decide for a wedding band
Am I missing something!?!? Your ring is beautiful. Congratulations!
You're ring is beautiful!! And if I didn't think so, I swear I would not have commented. I'm so sorry you've had unfavorable reactions. Like previous posters have said, some people just HAVE to say something no matter how hurtful it may be. Jealousy is an ugly thing, just remember that. Enjoy your engagement AND your ring. Congrats!!
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