Showing photographer the type of pics you have in mind

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Is it rude to show your photographer another photographer's pictures?
    Yes : (21 votes)
    30 %
    No : (49 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
    15019 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think it would be any different from showing a Baker a cake inspiration picture from another baker. If they take offense, I would take that as a sign to look for someone else. 

    Post # 4
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    In my opinion it would be a definite faux pas if your examples are nothing like the photographer’s style. To continue the baker analogy that would be like finding a vegan baker and asking him to copy this maple bacon covered cake with lard frosting. 🙂

    Post # 5
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My photographer requested copies of photos that I wanted to recreate (poses, etc)

    I also sent her a bunch of photos that I did not like (groomsmen showing socks, etc).

    I think that if you are paying for a service (an expensive one at that) that you should have some say in the end product….. Why would I pay someone to take a bunch of photos of socks and shoes when I have no desire to have these types of photos in my album….????

    I also think that you should pick a photographer that matches your style (photojournalistic, etc)……. that way you get the type of photos you are looking for…….


    Post # 6
    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I think if it’s the style you like in the examples, and that’s not your photographers style..that can be kind of “rude”.

    However, if you just want to show examples of poses and shots you want like “Oh see this one where they took a picture holding their marriage license” that seems okay to me. But I would make it clear that your examples are just to demonstrate the poses or even types of candid shots you might really want and not that you want the photographer to take pictures that are exactly like the example.

    Post # 7
    3846 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Carmabelle:   Instead of showing your photographer (chosen, presumably, because you like his/her/their style)   pictures that another photographer took, I’d suggest describing the pose or shot as well as you can, and let your photographer interpret it in their own style.   

    Post # 8
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It depends.. I’ve always been told you should choose a photographer that matches the style of documentation you would like for your wedding.

    If your vision doesn’t match what’s in your photographer’s portfolio, then yes I would consider it rude.

    Post # 9
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I agree with PP – if they’re somewhat in the style of your own photographer, that’s reasonable.  And I’d only show 5-6… photographers seems to hate when brides want them to recreate every single picture that’s every been on Pinterest.

    I emailed my photog with like 5 pictures (one of which was hers) saying “I would love to get pictures like these!”  I think she appreciated the input… they want to please you, as long as it doesn’t mean shooting in a totally different style or only taking staged Pinterest pictures all night.

    Post # 10
    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - St. Francis of Assisi Church & N.O. Board of Trade

    For our engagement pictures, I searched the photographer’s blog for similar pictures that I liked (poses, things to take pictures with, and style) and put them on a Pinterest board and sent them to her.  It helped give us some direction for the day, since she knew what kind of photos I liked, but it was all their work so nothing insulting.  

    I don’t think you have to do it that way (like if your photog doesn’t have a lot of photos online), but just make sure you’re being reasonable and keeping within the style that they already use. If it’s just ideas – “I like how they took individual pictures with each bridesmaid!” or “Here’s a pic I found from our venue, and I want a nighttime picture in the garden like this” then I can’t really see that as rude.  

    Post # 11
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Carmabelle:  I would say no because you are getting ideas on what kind of style and poses you are looking for. I would encourage it actually.

    Post # 12
    453 posts
    Helper bee

    @cranraspberry:  A maple bacon covered cake with lard frosting sounds Ah-maze-ing

    I have nothing of worth to offer other than that 🙂

    Post # 13
    2803 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We showed our photographer a couple of photos we liked for our engagement sesion, and she was kind of excited about trying out some of them.  Some of the others she pointed out that the lighting could be an issue (picutres with shadows, for instance) 

    Giving the photographer an idea of something that you would like to try is not a bad idea, as long as you are open for their interperitation of the idea. 

    Post # 15
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Carmabelle:  We talked to our photographer about pictures we really like (certain lighting, certain angles) but haven’t actually given him pictures to compare. We chose our photographer because we know he takes the type of pictures we wanted, so I don’t really feel that I need to give him guidance.

    Post # 16
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church


    I don’t really know how it would be rude to show things that you like. I am assuming that you picked the photographer because you love their style. I think that if you show them different things you like it gives them a better idea of what you really like. It’s a totally different thing if you are asking for a complete recreation of a photo and saying you have to have it a certain way. If the photographer can get a feel for what you like then they can create something that maybe has a similar feeling. I don’t think it is rude because while it is artistic, you are paying them for a service so you should be able to have some input in the end result. I think a good photographer might ask what draws you to those photos. Ultimately, I think to trust your photographer is the biggest thing. Who wants photos that look like someone else’s?

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