(Closed) Showing SO Love and Patience While Waiting

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Please someone post something. I’m having a terrible waiting day. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was just doing my nightly reading last night and it was talking about showing your spouse love even if you dont feel like it. I think it was a great reminder. Tell him you love him all the time, compliment him for things that you usually wouldn’t think about. Give him random gifts. Rub his back, hold is hand, play with his hair. Any random act always makes someone feel loved.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t have to wait a really long time, but I had to keep reminding myself that marriage just meant I got a piece of paper and his last name. Honestly, we are still the same couple we were before we got married. Has marriage brought us closer? In a lot of ways, yes, but it is def a lot of work to communicate and agree on everything now that we are one.

The sweeter you are the more inclined he will be to propose πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

I plan on dropping all engagement related talk for the next few months. I think part of the problem is by bringing it up and trying to ensure that he knows what he’s doing, it makes him feel like I don’t have faith in his abilities to make this happen. I had my final discussion last night and he got a bit snippy with me and reiterated our plans for next year. I realized at that point that every time I bring it up he feels like I’m putting pressure on him and making him feel like I don’t trust him. Other than that I think showing love and patience by just enjoying being with him, letting him make me happy in ways not related to the engagement, and getting our relationship ready for marriage by continuing to support each other will help in the process. Too often women in our situation decide to become less available or less committed and I know while in some situations this might work I think it’s better to show your partner that you are there for them regardless of having a ring or not. Love shouldn’t be so conditional. Within reason πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I think just being patient and understanding is a huge thing. Try not to talk so much about the ring/ engagement. I am currently on “ring watch” and the last thing I want to do is apply more pressure to him. My biggest problem is I am control freak and it is killing me that I am not in control of this situation. I am just trying to relax and enjoy this time with him. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

SO has been sick most of last week and this weekend..I lovingly made him chicken noodle soup & I cleaned his car off today. It had about 3-4″ of snow on it because he hasn’t left the house in a few days and it snowed. I have also been packing up a bunch of my stuff for our move and I’m trying to be very patient with him…I have to say I almost enjoy him being sick because he seems to get more lovey dovey. Additionally his mother mentioned to SO’s friends wife that a proposal will come when I least expect it…& I’m not expecting it for another year…year & a half..so maybe it will come sooner!?

Anyways I’ve been trying to be more appreciative of our relationship where it’s at now rather than pining for a different state. It’s not easy, as all you waiting bees well know!

*hugs*

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