Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
First of all, I just want to say that I’m impressed with myself because I’ve been here for well over a year now and I’m pretty sure this is my first post on the emotional board.
Okay. I finally had the “this is happening OMG we’re actually getting married”- envisioning the whole thing in great detail, getting all choked up moment. I don’t know if it’s because it’s 6am here and I haven’t slept yet, or because my mom added 14 people to my guest list this morning or because I got a month’s worth of planning done last week, but it finally happened.
And over what? Flowers. Something I thought I didn’t even care about. WTF. I still haven’t decided if I care about them, but I sure do care about the wedding a lot more now!
For reference: things that made me happy but did not give me that moment:
- the proposal
- getting my rings (and I have 2)
- picking my wedding band
- getting my dress (and my actual dress is here)
- finding my shoes
- trying on my mom’s dress
- our engagement party
- looking through the family safe for wedding jewelry
- picking a date
- choosing a venue
- picking our song- and we have all of the music picked out, including my processional song (which did make me emotional, just not in the wedding-centered sort of way, where my wedding visions all flashed before my eyes)
- Picking our bridal party
- Choosing that his twin bro would marry us
- booking our photographer, DJ, or cake
- choosing our decorations
- getting our STDS
- receiving our invitation proofs/designing the suite
- having my shower
- booking our honeymoon
I have NO IDEA why the flowers would do it, but I am realllly glad it finally happened. I feel like my vision is so much more cohesive now, and I’m really looking forward to the wedding a lot more!
But seriously, I have so much more to do- August can stay right where it is, no need to come any faster!
Have you guys had that moment yet? Over what?
Post # 3
@MeiFrancis: it happened to me last week and let me tell you, I FREAKED OUT. And not really in a good way. I think all the stress just got to me And turned me into a complete spaz. I’m less than two weeks away (eeeep!!) and this shit is like really real now. I’m hung up on the new last name bit, at first I was so excited to become ‘mrs. Weetzie’s man’ and now I’m like – wait, but name is weetzie, it’s always been weetzie, how can I just have a new name?!!? Everyone has assured me that it’s completely normal and blah blah, but I am actually scared. I am going to be someone’s WIFE (and step mother). It doesn’t get any more real than that!!
HOWEVER I am so excited as well! It’s a crazy mash up roller coaster of emotions!! I just keep focusing on the little details and my overall vision for the WEDDING, and not the MARRIAGE so that my poor little brain doesn’t explode.
Post # 4
@MeiFrancis: I just had that moment 9 days ago when I sent out final payments. About 2 months ago I was like you..June can take its Time..Now about 20 days out I’m ready. I still need bridal party gifts but for the most part I’m done!!! You’ll find yourself busier these next few months because as you said, shit just got real:)
Post # 5
Aww congrats on your first moment! 🙂
i think mine was when we got our invites in last week and my custom wedding band came in the next day. I can’t stop staring at both! It just made everything so real! Let it be known that FI already had to hide my band so I would stop trying it on lol.
Side note: Have you had any wedding dreams yet? I had a whack one last night. Something along the lines of the officiant arriving horribly late, my dress was never fitted, makeup lady cancelled and sent her untrained daughter, wedding planner switched my caterer to something terrible, my bridesmaids tried to send me down the aisle with a black crinoline?
i have no idea what is wrong with my wedding brain Lol
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@Weetzie: Hey, a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do! I totally get you- we’re talking about the same moment, that feeling where you’re on the border between excitement and panic and you’re afraid to give yourself over to either side because who knows what will happen then!
@Birdi: I can only imagine since I am still not tired and am going through all the wedding stuff like a maniac! I am REALLLLY lucky that I’m not working for the month of June.
@misschickpea: I have been having wedding dreams for like 8 months hahahaha. I can understand the other stuff, but where did your brain come up with the black crinoline???
Post # 7
Getting the plane tickets to fly back to the US for the wedding. Fairly logical… there have been other, weirder, both good and bad holy shit moments, but that was the first.
Post # 8
Over my hair! I had a first trial that I just wasn’t blown away by it, but I figured, eh, my expectations were too high or something – not like this really matters. I let it marinate for a week or so and then suddenly I had a huge breakdown about it, triggered by something totally different (working on escort cards and other crafts with my mom) where I realized IT DOES MATTER TO ME. I broke down, my mom helped me select a new style my FI loves, and now I’ve got my second hair trial coming up and it finally feels REAL!
Post # 9
The “OMG SH!T JUST GOT REAL” moment occured when my co-worker came over and said “I got your wedding invitation.”
Weird, I know… but I guess it was the reality of knowing that I’m not just talking about this thing that hasn’t happened yet but now I’m asking others to join me for this life changing thing.
The tasting made me feel that way too. We’re picking food and talking about our schedule for the wedding day and all of these details that are so real. I always feel like saying “AHHHHHHH!!! I’M GETTING MARRIED!” whenever these moments hit. lol
Post # 10
@MeiFrancis: this actually JUST happened to me yesterday. i have done EVERYTHING for our wedding already, we are basically just working on smaller things (bridal party gifts, transportation, etc) until the day. i started assembling our invites on Saturday and I was finally like eeeeek!
Post # 11
@MeiFrancis: We got engaged late last November. He was all excited about getting planning and everything while I was in the mode of finishing off the semester of school. After that I said we should just get through the holidays and my birthday and we could start planning. Then It’s early february and we haven’t even sent out save the dates! So I have been working on things here and there and whenever I feel like it.
Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I graduated from college on May 18th. The next day I was in tears because I realized that the wedding was only four months away!!! Holy shit! How did I let that happen?
Needless to say, the last two weeks I sped it up into high gear and realized I did a lot more that I thought the last few months and we are right on track.
Congrats and good luck!!!
Post # 12
@MeiFrancis: I had a moment a couple months ago – and I have a year to go still! We got engaged in December and my parents had an engagement party for us in March. We were sitting together and opening gifts with everyone watching and I had that ‘holy sh*t, this is happening’ moment. It was brief, however, and I’m sure once I get deeper into planning I’ll really feel it!
Post # 13
Hah, mine just happened this weekend. I ordered the paper for my origami bouquets, got my dress budget and made my first appointments for dress shopping, sat down and said “holy shit, we’re getting married!”. You’d think that the first round of deposit checks would have triggered it, but nope 🙂 It only lasted a minute or two though, I’m sure I’ll have other moments later on.
Post # 14
Yeah, I’m married and it still hasn’t really hit me that it’s real o.O
Post # 15
When I tried on my dress the day it came in. That’s when I was like “omg, I am actually doing this!” lol 🙂
Post # 16
My moment was yesterday when we picked up our Marriage license!
Seeing both our names and info and everything on the piece of paper that will literally make us husband and wife was pretty intense!