Post # 1
This is more of a vent than anything, since really, what can anyone help me with?
FI and I chose an amazing converted loft for our reception, and it’s pretty out there. It’s far from our church and most people’s homes but the overall response from the majority of our guests has been, “you make it work!”
I booked a block of 10 rooms (5 king, 5 double queens) at the nearest hotel (25 minutes away, mind you) and will have to provide transportation to and from. I just called them to see if I could book any more rooms and I can’t b/c they only have 44 in the whole hotel!! There is one other hotel 30 minutes away, but I can’t afford to supply a bus for both.
Should I change the 5 king/5 double queen to more double queens so people can bunk up? I’m getting really worried about it now…
Has anyone run into something like this before? I never considered the fact that there WOULDN’T be hotels out there!!!! UGHHHHHHHHH…
Post # 2
“Bunk up”? Sorry, but as much as I love my family and friends, I want my own hotel room. I’d look into a less expensive bus that can make two stops at different hotels or something.
Post # 3
We have hotels near our venue and booked a room block with the understanding that we could continue to add rooms as it filled. Now, 6 weeks before our wedding, the entire hotel is booked. There are 3 nearby hotels that are also booked full. Not all of oit guests have found rooms.
The point of my story is that even if your hotel situation seemed ideal, there is always the possibility of things going wrong. I’m sure that anyone who wants to be at your wedding would be willing to stay a little further away and drive.
Post # 4
colorofmyheart: yeah I agree.
I am not trying to travel out to nowhere for a wedding and then have to double up in a hotel room after a half hour bus ride (probably tipsy, definitely tired). This is something that you should have seriously considered before booking the venue
Maybe you should get a big enough block of rooms to accommodate all of your guests at the second hotel and cancel the first block.
Post # 5
SunshineSmiles: You’re right, it’s always something!!
ETA – the hotel that’s a little further (30 minutes) lets you book up to 50/60 rooms and is newly renovated. I think I answered my own question!!
Post # 6
To be honest, providing transportation from the hotel to the reception is nice, but so not needed. You would never be asked to or expected to provide transport to an adult to any other event that you may host. Why are you suddenly expected to do it because you threw the word “wedding” in the mix?
Post # 7
BurlapnLace: I would do what you’re thinking – switch hotels. We opted to have our guests stay at a hotel farther from the venue because we could get them a MUCH better rate there (DH works there) and we opted to bus them to and from the wedding (Which people really really appreciated).
I also liked the bus because it meant we didn’t have to worry about people drinking and driving.
Post # 8
Have you looked into other lodging such as bed & breakfasts, campgrounds, maybe even college dorms? [the college near us rents them out]
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s a requirement to provide transportation. It’s nice, but we always take our own car and one of us just doesn’t drink much.
Post # 10
I would not be thrilled to go to a wedding reception where the hotel option is 30 minutes away.
Post # 11
MsGinkgo: Exactly, I don’t want anyone driving while drinking, and I don’t want people to have to worry about it either. Unfortunately the hotel doesn’t provide a shuttle and if it did it probably wouldn’t go as far as my venue.
Post # 12
BurlapnLace: I think too many brides are assuming too much responsibility for their guests’ lives. If they were going to attend else, no one would be providing a shuttle or booking hotel rooms for them.
Your guests are adults. Let them make their own arranagements.
Post # 13
BurlapnLace: We hired a school bus, we had it for 10 hours, 2 trips each way and it was less than $800 and DH and I agree it was some of the best money we spent.
julies1949: I think a lot of us want to be kind to our OOT guests. Our guests travelled a really long way to be a part of our wedding. Expecting them to get from the hotel to the venue would have been a $100-$150 cab ride EACH WAY or they would have had to rent a car and driven themselves. We weren’t comfortable with either. People preach about being a good host and all the things that have to be done or you’re a bad host. If you’ve chosen a venue that you know won’t be easily accessible to guests, providing transportation, while maybe going above and beyond, is being a (really) good host.
Post # 14
Is there enough room in the 30 min away hotel for all guest and just cancel the original rooms?
Post # 15
OP, kudos to you for hiring a bus. Yes it’s not required but it shows you genuinely care about your guests’ enjoyment. The “let them fend for themselves” attitude that is so rampant on the ‘bee these days makes me feel sad. It’s like the guests are a major inconvenience for some brides, rather than loved ones who deserve to be spoiled a bit in exchange for taking their day (or in some cases, their weekend) to celebrate with us.
Can your guests get back and forth without you taking on the responsibility and cost of hiring a bus? Sure they can! If they can figure out how to get to the hotel, they can surely figure out how to get a little further down the road. But it makes you a much more gracious hostess for taking care of this detail on their behalf. I would be thrilled if every wedding I attended had a hostess as gracious as you.