Post # 1
Out of your siblings – will you be the first to marry, last to marry, or somewhere in the middle?
How has your (sibling) order of marriage affected the “pressure” you may feel to get married? Has there been pressure because you’re the first/last? Is there no pressure because you’re somehere in the middle? Are you an only child?
In your family, are there any customs/traditions that state the eldest should be married first? Any issues there?
Fee free to elaborate in any way
Post # 3
I am the first to get married. I am the youngest of three children, and I have two very much elder brothers.
Neither one of my brothers are in stable relationships so I really doubt there is any sort of pressure.
Post # 4
I’m the only child. I don’t feel really pressured at all to get married, but I think that’s more a factor of my relationship wtih my parents than the fact that I’m an only child. My FI is the youngest sibling of 3 and he is the second to get married. He definitely wasn’t pressured, nor was his oldest sister who was the first to get married.
Post # 5
I’m the first to get married. My sister is 10 years older than me so maybe she feels the pressure but I make sure to include her in almost everything I do. I’m almost positive she’s enjoying the prep just as much ad I am.
Post # 6
First born – last to be married. Of Five.
Post # 7
I’m the first to get married and no I don’t feel any pressure at all although my mom really threw me the other day lamenting that she feels like she’ll never “get any grandkids” um wtf did that come from ma? lol I’m 28 and the middle of 3 girls. My older sister (32) was a runaway bride about 4 or 5 years ago and my parents lost a ton of money on top of the embarrassment. They don’t make her feel badly about it or anything…but I don’t think they’re too eager for her to attempt another walk down the aisle because they’re nervous. My little sister is 17…she’s got some time 🙂
Post # 8
@suburbian: I’m also the first born and last to be married. I only have 1 sibling but she’s four years younger than me so growing up, it was always assumed that I’d be first. I’m happy for her though and will be pushing my wedding date back to ensure that nothing interrupts all her planning and preparation in 2014.
Post # 9
I’m the youngest and the last to get married, my brother who is four years older was married five years ago and the oldest who is seven years older was married 7 years ago.
My FI is the youngest of four and also the last to get married, his sister is 18 months older and got married in September.
No pressure here, our parents have lots of grandchildren and are sort of sick of weddings.
Post # 10
I am the oldest, my brother is 4 years younger. He got married first.
Post # 11
I am the middle child of three girls. My older sister has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for almost 9 years (my bf and I have been together for about 5.5) and they are just one of those couples that doesn’t really seem to care about getting married. I’m sure they will someday, but it’ll probably just be in a courthouse or something. I will definitely be the first one to get married, despite how much longer they have been together.
My younger sister is 22 and still in college..and a lesbian..so that’s a bit more complicated.
Post # 12
I am the middle of 3 and will be the first to get married. I’ve wondered how my sister (oldest) feels about it. She’s been with her boyfriend for 10 years but she started telling me pretty early on in my relationship that I would be getting married before her.
Post # 13
We are both the last children in our families to get married. No pressure though. People are just excited about it. 🙂
Post # 14
I’m the second oldest of four but the third to get married. The other two, first and third, got married a month apart. (drama much?)
I felt zero pressure to get married, ever. My family would have even been cool if I eloped. I think the two previous weddings have something to do with that.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I’m the oldest and the first to marry.
Post # 16
I have one sibling and I’m older by 4 years. I got married in 2012 and she’s in college so she’s not contemplating marriage anytime soon. In my culture it is customary that siblings get married in age order but that can vary depending on how many years are between each sibling, and the gender of the sibling (usually girls go first at a younger age).