Post # 1
I seriously think I may hurt my Future Mother-In-Law if she finds any more family that she forgot to add on “her list” and then blame me for not inviting them. We sent out invitations a MONTH AGO, but forgot SIL parents and another relative. We were at our Max a month ago when invitations went out, and we keep getting RSVP’s back for more than the invitation went for, so we’re way over where we wanted and she keeps adding more people who have to come! My wedding is in 3 weeks, I should not be still sending out invitations, when I have more than I want in teh first place and have no more space to add these people. just because you will volunteer to go without a date to invite them doesn’t mean I would like to replace the empty spot with more people.
I swear this makes wedding planning terrible. I have cried almost 10 days out of the last month because I’m not sure what to do with all these people and the extras that keep coming.
Sorry, I’m just venting as i’m upset, and not sure what to do. I would have liked to have had 144, and now am at about 151, which isn’t a ton over and I know is manageable, and not over fire code, but it’s still very frustrating, that it’s 3 weeks to go, and more people keep getting added, I was down to 145 3 days ago!!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry 🙁 That sounds really tough. But the end is coming soon after that you’ll just get to bask in newlywed bliss!!!! 🙂
Post # 4
@luv2shop08: I’m so sorry that this is causing you such stress! My Future Mother-In-Law is the same way… we were assembling invites today to send out and she called Fiance to tell him that she needed to add 2 more couples to the invite list. He told her absolutely no (we have a strict “If we don’t know them, they aren’t invited” policy), and she called us dictators, haha. I anticipate that this will continue through the day of the wedding, when I’m betting any amount of money that she won’t enforce our no-kids rule. We’ve just found that being very firm and unwavering was the only way to get through to her.
Sending you hugs and good thoughts! In just 3 weeks you’ll get to marry the love of your life and it won’t matter that there were extra people there. I know it’s hard, but try to think of that!
Post # 5
Can you get your fiance to talk to his mother? I think she is totally out of line but it seems like something he should handle in terms of talking to her. Of course you could just keep your mouth shut (which helps a lot with in-law problems! :-)) but this is a big issues and I feel like I could see her taking a mile after you’ve given an inch with many things to come in the future!
Post # 6
Who is paying for your wedding? If she is… you may have to let her have her say and way, unfortunately. If she isn’t paying, put your foot down, but nicely… she’s your Future Mother-In-Law afterall. 🙂