- 3 years ago
Hello everyone! Newbie here. I’ve been lurking around for a few weeks reading others’ stories’ and I’m finally ready to share mine. I will try to keep it brief and hit the main points.
Bf and I have been together almost 4 years. The first year was long distance for about 9 months then We had a pretty rocky year last year including taking a few weeks space apart.
We seemed to have worked things out pretty well and we were better than ever. i thought we were on the same page and were moving toward marriage and babies. We are both 31, well I will be in 2 months, and I am more than ready for this step. We never officially lived together but he spent just about every night at my place for over a year. I recently sold this place and have been staying with my parents while my new home is renovated. This has led to more space and time apart as we are now 30 mins away and have opposite work schedules. He keeps saying engagement will happen after this or that or we just need to get along for a little longer. Blah blah.
a little about him: he is a very simple guy meaning he’s pretty content with whatever life hands him without him having to work for more. Unless of course it’s for a hobby of his then he puts his all into it. He currently works in the family business but his father essentially treats him as a personal servant rather than son and co owner He doesn’t even pay him enough to cover living expenses. But of course bf just takes what he can get rather than finding a new job or making some sort of change. He keeps telling me a house and marriage will happen someday and in time. I really tried to have faith but I feel its pointless now. I believe if something is important to you you would make it happen. He’s not a very emotive person. So that is also hard because I feel like I’m standing out on a branch alone with no clue to how he feels.
i guess I was going to ask for advice, should I stay or go but after typing this out I doubt anyone would say stay. I think I truly would be settling. I am successful with a good job and family. I’ve owned my own home and i want someone to meet me at that level. Its scary to think about starting over at this time of life but I deserve to be truly happy! It’s been inspiring reading about others who did not settle and found THE ONE!!
- This topic was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by SittingWaitingWishing.