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I am so frustrated!  Last night we had some friends over, one of them being the wife of our best man.  She always asks about the wedding plans, and I try to share as many details as I can (we're still a year away!)  She has suggestions on how I could pretty much do everything different, wonders why I am not doing somethings, insists tht we HAVE to have dancing, doesn't understand why I'm letting people who aren't in the bridal party sit at the "head table" and cannot believe that I'm trusting my fiance to pick out what all the guys are wearing. 

Ironically, the same thing happened last weeked when I began to share details with my FSIL.  Both of these women are nice people that I consider my friends.. but they are making me second guess myself and what **I** want on my wedding day, and quite honestly, I feel like telling them to shut up, and if they don't think my wedding sounds nice or like something they want to go to, then they don't have to come!! 

I am so frustrated.. I feel like I am spending all this money to have a nice, memorable day with our family and friends.. if they aren't going to like it or have a good time, then I feel like I shouldn't waste my money on these people!!!  Grrr!!  I am so frustrated!!

FI says I am being too sensitive, that both our FSIL and friend are jealous (they never had a wedding) and to just ignore them.  But I'm kinda mad, now, and am having trouble getting over it!!  I guess the only solution is to not tell people about my details, but instead keep things very general when they ask me questions, and they will just have to be in the dark.  I'm not letting them live vicariously through me if they aren't going to be supportive.  It is just frustrating when you think your ideas are good and then someone comes along and craps all over them.

PS- the only detail that my friend did like was that her husband's tie with his suit will be blue.. it will look good with his eyes, she says.  GRRR!

I can totally relate to what your feeling. I knew that we would have some people like the ones you are describing from the begining because I saw how they treated other friends and family on our circile when they were planning their weddings. So my FI and I made the decision not to tell anyone anything, that way if they don't know then they can't complain. I haven't even mentioned colors really.....The way I see it is if people need to know something then I'll tell them. People know where I stand and some people respect it and others think I'm being **witchy** for doing so but, I really don't care. I've explained it to them in a very nice way and even told people that we want everything to be a surprise...... We are doing what we want and thats the bottom line......