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hi...

i've had a few posts of doubting my dress.  it comes in waves.  some days i hate it....some days i like it a lot.  i bought the dress in september, and went back in to the salon to try it on again in october after MAJOR dress nervousness.  i felt better when i saw it...still slightly unsure, but i did feel better.  i was supposed to go in this month for measurements (it's a selia yang dress and will be custom fit which is why they didn't measure when i ordered) but now my appointment isn't until end of march so i'm stressing all over again.  they want me to be as close to my wedding size as possible.  anyway, here's what's bugging me about my dress.  can you ladies tell me your HONEST opinions of it?  

Things to keep in mind:  this dress was big on me, i'm getting more of a scoop or a sweethearted neckline, a small amount of toole will be added to the neckline to highlight the shape.  also, i only have pics of it with a bustle so the flare of the trumpet is more dramatic when the train is down(it's the one part of the dress that i love).

#1 issue: is it too plain?

#2 issue: does the belt make my midsection look wide?  it sticks out a bit.

I'm thinking of switching belts too which can be decided during my appointment in march.  i ordered the flower one (which i'm pictured in) but also like the other belt too.  Are they too bulky?  do you guys like either of them?

thanks in advance for your honest opinions!  

thanks.  the belt ties in the back.  i guess it's a sash not a belt.  maybe i can customize it somehow to make me look thinner?

i can't afford both for sure.  i've never tried on the second one which is weird b/c i tried on so many of her sashes. i've always loved that one in ads so they said i could switch if i wanted.

and yes, that is my veil.  

thanks for your opinion though and for your honesty!

thanks all.  it's so hard not being able to see it!  plus i wanted to try the other belt on and now i have to wait until march!  sooo annoying.   

@mizrunzou...they do have the belts there for me to try on which is good.  waiting until march to make that choice is the tough part!  yeah, the toole on that belt might not be great.  i actually noticed it too but with the added toole neckline maybe it'll all tie in and work?  who knows.  the dress is silk organza.

@bantioo...yeah, the belt was too low. i agree.  maybe that's the issue and it's all a simple fix??  a girl can hope.  and, what's best for stacy and clinton works for me.  or rachel zoe or tim gunn.  

@indecisivebride...i love your screen name.  clearly, i'm also an indecisive bride!

why is this so hard?

If it helps, I don't think I'd like the belt either. Just because it's not flush with the dress. That would bother me bc in side pics it might look fluffy. The dress though isn't too plain. It's has subtle detail, like the hem, which makes it eye catching.

My dress is also from Selia Yang! 

I don't think the dress is too plain at all, but what I loved about her dresses is their clean lines.  I think the dress looks great on you and you'll be happier once it's in your size (and if the belt is up a little higher).  I like your belt better than the one in the ad -- I think that one is gorgeous, but might be a bit much/distracting.

Your post makes me want to call the salon and check in on my dress!

Going off of what ErinMarguerite said -- did you try on the belt with just one flower in the middle?  That was the one I was considering with your dress.  It may accentuate your waist a little more.

thanks to everyone for commenting with honest answers.  it's so great to hear people's impression of it and get real opinions.

i definitely don't want to go 'beltless'.  the dress is WAY to plain for me with nothing on it so that option is out.  i am wearing dangly diamond earrings that my mom bought me (thanks mom!) and a diamond bracelet that i'm borrowing from my grandma.  i feel like the jewelry and the belt will hopefully add enough pizazz.

I'll see what else selia has in the way of belts.  there were some i tried on that were flat and they were pretty but none of them screamed wow to me.  when i first saw the flower belt (the one i ordered) i LOVED it and i think it looks better in person but it doesn't seem to photograph well. boo!  the second one is intriguing to me but maybe it'll be the same issue.  ugh.  i'm so stressed about this right now.  especially hearing so many of you echo my concerns.

@sarahnyc23...yay!  another selia bride!!  i did try the one flower belt but i didn't love it at the time.  maybe i'll give it another go.  i wanted one that had a little bling on it, which that one didn't.  are you wearing one of her belts?  

i hope that i can somehow make this dress into something i'm excited to wear without breaking the bank here.  i'm so nervous about it!

thanks again to everyone for weighing in!

@marlie: I am wearing one of her lace dresses with the belt that has some silverish embroidery in the middle and beading around the sides (not a good description, but I'll try and post a pic).  Doesn't the belt with the one flower have a little rhinestone or something in the middle that would give it a bit of bling?  I'm forgetting now.  It sounds like maybe your accessories will add some sparkle too.  I do really love your dress though.

@sarah....i tried that same combo on and LOOOOOVED it.  oooh, so beautiful. i ultimately felt that lace wasn't right for the venue and type of wedding.  it was sad to see that one go. i also debated that belt with my dress but after seeing it with the lace, it lost something when it was on a more simple dress.  i'll try it again maybe.   ooh, you are going to look gorgeous!!

@azinaugust...thanks...i'm hoping eventually to love the look.  it's so frustrating to not be one of those girls who knows when it's THE ONE.  

@marlie: Aw, thanks!  You will look gorgeous too!  :) 

I really love the dress and the belt! It is not too plain at all. It is classic. But the belt makes it modern. You could still pull off a fun necklace/hairpiece/pair of earrings because it is not too busy, but you don't need it. The shape is great on you too! I like it... I like it A LOT!

I love, love, love the dress!!  You look fabulous so don't even second guess it.  I do not love either of the sashes though...I don't think they are doing anything for you or the dress.  You have a great figure and I don't think the current belt/sash is showing it off.  Like a couple of girls have said, they might be too thick/chunky... consider something thinner and I think it would really accent your waist.