Post # 1
omg where do I even begin?? Everything has to be done way in advance. guests inviting guests of theirs but dont tell you their dinner preference nor their names. Wanting to talk to some vendor, I have to notify them in advance. aaaahhhhhh!!! I just want to get married, why does my family make everything so difficult!!
This topic was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by serenity84.
Post # 2
serenity84: i am so in th same boat right now. Jist throwing my hands up!
Post # 3
serenity84: Im in the same boat! Can’t afford to do much for the wedding, but have to get everyone else’s opinions and “must have” guest list. Omg..I just want to elope but dont want to disappoint the family. Planning sucks!
Post # 4
I’m 3.5 weeks out and really only care about making sure a few major things get done, and after that… whatever. As a book I had been reading “A Practical Wedding” said – you sholdl remember how your wedding made you feel, and not how it looked. Great thought, as that’s what it really is all about. Family can be the worst during the planning, as you want to please them… but at the same time, do what you and your FI want to do. It’s not THEIR wedding, it’s yours.
Post # 5
serenity84: When I got married the first time (big, floofy wedding) I felt the same way. It’s SO fun in the beginning, but towards the end you are just so glad to get it over with! Don’t worry, though, the actual DAY is going to be the best you’ve ever had!! So hang on!!
Post # 6
serenity84: I’m down to like 6/7 weeks and I just want it to be HERE already! I’m SO SICK of making decisions and answering questions. #shouldhaveeloped
Post # 7
serenity84: Oh, and the 2nd friend I’ve asked to sing at my ceremony just backed out. So there’s that…
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Beach
I’m a year out and in the same boat! I’m planning it all myself and am not getting much help at all (financially or otherwise).
I’m about ready to just cancel and go to town hall
Post # 9
Honestly. planning a wedding isnt for everyone. I really hate that people assume every girl just loves the process. I HATED IT! I wanted a BBQ in my backyard, not to spend a year of my life pondering stupid details.
haha, dont worry it will be over and then you can enjoy married life.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan
theknot.com has a really useful checklists to keep yourself from going fully crazy. I was going nuts just trying to figure out what to do, and when to do it. I printed their checklist and have been using it. Helped me calm down about picking my dress and bridesmaid dresses RIGHT NOW, and a few other things.
I asked my mom to help. Since my parents are covering about 2/3rd of the cost, it means I am giving up some control of my wedding, but when I also work full time in a stressful job and live across the country from where my wedding will be… its worth it to not stress!
Post # 11
38 days… and I just want to stop organising!! My day job revolves around project management, and it’s all been a little too much for me of late.
Still – nearly there now, finishing straight!!
Post # 12
Maybe I’m missing something but, wedding planning is not that difficult or time consuming.
My FI and I have planned a black-tie, 50 person wedding completely on our own and have had virtually no stress. We have very specific tastes and don’t solicit the opinions of other people, its actually been really fun to do this together.
Post # 13
serenity84: ha ha I keep telling ppl I can’t wait for the 14th of November, We get married the 13th. They get all confused and are like what I thought it was the 13th? I’m like oh it is i can’t wait for the next day when its all over! ha ha they roll their eyes at me but i honestly i’m looking forward to getting on with our lives, not having 17 things to do every day and to stop worrying about saving for a while and living again! We only had a short engagement and a small wedding cos I actually knew I would be like this. And i hate the person its making me! ahhhhhh 58 days!!
Post # 14
I am.OVER THE PLANNING. In the begining it was so exciting and I would pintrest all day and Night.. Buy all the wedding mags and read wedding stuff All the time.now I can’t be stuffed.i get married in three months and all, the main things are done but all the little touches I was sure I would want I am not doing as it is just another thing for me to craft, or plan and I honestly don’t want any more to do.
Post # 15
serenity84: To ease your stress, I tell everyone this… hire a wedding planner or coordinator or even just consult with one for way less money to help you get on the right track. I know lots of brides out there are like “I can’t afford one” but then they have all these stresses and added costs because they didn’t realize that they had to pay for this or this person just got added to the guest list and you just found out with two weeks to go… Save yourself all this stress and MONEY and hire someone to help you. They’ll save your wallet and your sanity, truly! Family just makes it much more difficult, especially if you ask them for help!