Post # 1
Hi all, I came across this post (I googled “wedding planning drama” and came across it) and I felt like ahh, I wish there were more comments! http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sick-of-wedding-planningdrama
Things have been really difficult lately because I have an excruciatingly controlling future-sister-in-law and she is very manipulative. I have never been so stressed out in my life. I’m not even kidding, I just checked out a book called “Controlling People” (how to deal with them) from the library earlier. I think my fiance is only just now seeing the light on the subject of how his sister is acting (well, he let me tell him exactly what I thought without getting mad! And it was a doozy! I mean, I just figured it would have spurred a reaction is all.)
Just wanting to hear from some other people… even if all you say is, yup, got wedding drama over here too!
Post # 3
Is she married? She might be jealous. Bottom line, this is YOUR wedding. If she cries/threatens to not attend because her demands are not met, call her bluff. I did with a memeber of my wedding party and she caved. Manipulative people only hurt thouse who they think they can get over with. Develop a tactful but forceful bit with her. This day belongs to you.
Be prepared for this banshee for the rest of your married life dear. Keep it nice, limit communication and contact and be prepared on your wedding day to assign a member of the bridal party to “watch” her incase she decide to show her ass
Post # 4
@yassim: I’ve had it. Now I’m nearing the end of planning, I realise I suppose everyone gets drama, but at the time I was so upset by it as it was so unnecessary. What made me feel better was the other day there was a similar thread to this and someone put that it’s other people’s selfishness that creates problems and she was so right saying that, I don’t know why but I guess, because she gave a great explanation for it I felt much better as I realised it wasn’t anything I was doing wrong.
Post # 5
Thanks for writing! Luv, yes she is married! I’m really nervous about her sometimes. She has been “put in her place” (so to speak) by my family for drama over my upcoming shower but it doesn’t make me feel much better. It doesn’t help that she is a bridesmaid! But… I don’t think it’d make a difference if she was or wasn’t anymore, so I stopped kicking myself for that.
Prewitt, so sorry you’re feeling similar! That is a good point, definitely. Selfishness. I have been hanging around this part of the forum since posting and it is definitely comforting hearing other people’s stories. Hopefully I can lend something to someone out of all this. It is really annoying especially when the source of stress is one stinking person…
Another thing with this FSIL is just her nasty attitude… she has often times asked “wasn’t my wedding sooo much better,” or “could you believe they didn’t serve this or that,” or “her dress was sooo plain,” and just mean things. Nobody is required to like anything they don’t like, but being nasty like that is just… nasty. So now that she is mad she is not getting her way with things I feel like she’s going to turn around and say nasty things about our wedding like that. Y’know, thing whatever you want, but you don’t need to be nasty. And she does these things in a way that make people feel like they’re special and “in” on something and she gets people to go along with her.
I think back to times she’s said nasty things to me about other people and, not knowing what to say, just nod or say “oh, really?” instead of saying “wow what a mean thing to say!”
Anyway, she’s definitely got me a little more than crazed.