- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I am sitting here feeling so depressed – not how i wanted to feel, one week before my wedding.
In my last post, I had just had the shock of getting a phone call from the restaurant where we had booked our dinner reception months before. They told me that they had not realized that my wedding event (scheduled for a night when the restaurant was normally closed) was on the same day as a “soccer dinner” for which tickets were being sold, for they couldn’t cancel that, and had to cancel ours.
Spent a night being royally pissed, but when I heard the whole story at least I understood what had happened. The resaturant is owned by a couple who we know fairly well, but what I didn’t know is that the man’s sister is a 35% owner. Because the cafe rarely has events when they are are normally closed, the sister thought it was OK just to plan this soccer dinner without asking or even telling her brother. When she finally got around to informing him, he had also committed to us.
Oh well . . . I let go my frustration and we decided to hold the event at our house. We have a beautiful older Hawaii plantation style house that, by moving furniture around and such, will make a lovely venue for a dinner reception for about 30 people. We have outdoor areas for pupus and a bar, and enought space in the largish “great room” for seating. All good! Kind of exciting, actually . . .
Family members stepped in to help with decorating and a lot of other great ideas. Yesterday, my fiance’s son and daughter-in-law, who have been so sweet, enthusiastic and helpful, came over and we had a final planning meeting about how everything is going to be set up.
So then I get a call this morning saying that they have decided that doing it at our house is going to be “too much work” and that they’re just going to host it at their house.
Which I guess I should be grateful for? But I’m just feeling awful, and awful for feeling awful. We have family gatherings all the time at their house, so it doesn’t really feel very special. They want just put a tent up out on the lawn, but all we have access to is one of those crappy 20×20 metal canopies with a grey tarp on top – the only way to get a nice tent is to bring it from 2 hours away at a cost of almost $1,000 (which we do not have the budget for). I don’t know any way to make one of those grey tarp tents look pretty and festive – but maybe some of you Bees might have some ideas?
My husband-to-be says nothing can take away from the specialness of the event, and that’s sweet of him, but trying to create a pretty venue, one that’s different from what we do as a family all the time, was the ONLY “demand” that I’ve made about this event.
Other family members deciding on colors, decorations, cake type, etc. has all been fine with me because it’s so much fun to have everyone get involved and put their creativity to work. I don’t have any strong ideas about any of that – but I really wanted the venue itself to be special in some way.
Thanks for listening . . .