Sigh… I'm in between a rock and hard place

posted 1 year ago in Money
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Busy bee
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  • 1 year ago

Take your car to another mechanic.  The tranny doesnt always die, there could be something smaller to fix.  How old is the car?

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Buzzing bee

Hi fellow gradstudent! I understand that it must feel unfair… So, the honeymoon – can you create a honeyfund and ask your guests to contribute towards it?

 

As for the other things you mentioned – yes, scrap the DJ, I’m sure you can have a great party with music from Spotify or just someone’s shuffle. Flowers, do cheap ones – baby’s breath, carnations, potted plants from a nursery. It really don’t have to cost that much! Not sure what you had in mind in terms of decoration, but is it something you would be able to DIY? As for the food, finger food is fun – I’m sure people will have a great time anyway! Is it possible for you to add to it, with let’s say a home baked cookie station for dessert?

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Sugar Beekeeper

That’s AWFUL! Do you guys live near public transportation? Maybe you can put off getting a new car?

Or maybe you can do a cake and punch lunch reception for all your friends, and take whatever is left of your money and go on a honeymoon with that?

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Blushing bee

your car probably shouldn’t need a whole new transmission. Maybe it’s low on fluid? I had a leak and mine was acting like that too, and it didnt cost too much. And maybe use an iPod instead of a dj to cut costs? Or what about a brunch wedding or maybe a cocktail hour & finger foods instead of a sit down dinner?

good luck! Hopefully the car repair isn’t too bad. I know what its like though. my first month saving for the wedding I had a $300 car repair and a $300 refrigerator repair. Ugh!

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Busy bee

Why not just get a small job on the weekends? I went to grad school full time and had a full time and part time job. Yeah it sucks and I had zero free time because I was either in school, working or studying 24/7 but it paid my rent  and bills

 

it stinks about the car but figure out a way to make some more money… You have a few months And could pretty easily make a few thousand bucks 

 

Some options might be the mall/retail (they have late shifts at night and weekends) 

waitress/bartender/hostess ….basically anything at a restaurant 

babysitting (if you have no cash you won’t really be going out on the weekend anyways)

 

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Bee Keeper

No fun! I’l hope it’s not the full tranny. How about a small “minimoon” right after the wedding and then save up for a big, awesome “honeymoon” several months or a year later?

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Bumble bee

I’m right there with you sister!  Grad school and struggling!  I second the pp who suggested public transit – can you survive on one car?  Or look for a job on the weekends – even if its not in your career field, it will help you with bills and wedding money!

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Sugar bee

well, if you end up needing a new car, i suggest leasing. i know a lot of people will disagree with me but i don’t care. we are currently leasing our car and it’s saving us over $200/month as opposed to financing it. our payment is $208/month and we have the option to trade it in or purchase it at the end of the lease. we decided to lease because of how much cheaper the monthly payments are. we needed a car but are not in a place to afford a $400/month payment.

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Busy bee

@imanw:  sounds like you are going to be a nurse or something… that would be something that parents would pay more for (vs the teen next door)

you could make a few hundred bucks a month totally under the table this way

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Sugar bee

@imanw:  i have a high credit score and a lot of debt but i didn’t have a problem getting a lease. we had to get it in my name only because my husband has a repossession on his credit history (he was young and stupid and made a mistake). we could’ve added him but it would’ve made our payments really high. we’re not too worried about scratches and things like that. they expect normal wear and tear on the car at the end of the lease. you can ask your car salesperson more about that. it doesn’t hurt to try if it comes to the point where you need a new car.

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