*Sigh* UGH Im about to upset some workmates by not inviting them….

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think in your situation I would invite the people who you are super close with. The part about them helping you 6 years ago really resonated with me. Surely others know that you’ve been friends with them outside of work for years.

The other option would be just family.

I wouldn’t invite anyone just for the sake of it.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Danori:  ugh feel your pain!! Do you think the people you don’t want there would be likely to not come anyways? My friend invited our whole department and the ones she wasn’t close ith didn’t come anyway. I think it’s okay if you invite like 2 people from a large department. But if you are going to invite more than half of one department I think the proper thing is to invite them all. I wouldn’t worry about the others outside of your department but I think you should invite everyone from both your departments to the wedding. Because you are their superior it is especially important to appear fair and invite them all. I am betting that th people you do not want to really come won’t come anyways!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Danori:  those are my thoughts exactly!! I will tell you that with my friend the people from work knew what the deal was or assumed that it was a “Pity” invite and they didnt send a gift or anything. They just responded no and left it at that. and half these people were attorneys!! I feel like in your case the people you don’t want to come won’t worry about giving you a gift or anything! Eloping sounds good about 100 times a day right?!! I’m with you on that one haha. 

 

And I always thought an engagement party would make me feel uncomfortable too. That’s not a gift occasion to me!

Post # 8
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I also have people who work under me, and I decided not to invite any of them since I don’t deal with them socially outside of the office…I thought it was best because I didn’t want to offend anyone. One of them keeps harping on it – I’m glad I’m doing a DW now lol!

Post # 10
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Danori:  i only invited some people from work. i just invited the people who i actually hang out with socially. i did not have any problems but i made sure not to talk about the wedding that much at work.

Post # 11
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Danori:  on the boss question i invited my immediate superiors but not our overall manager

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Danori:  I would only invite those who you are close to.  Maybe you can subtly ask those to not mention the wedding at work, because you were unable to invite everyone.

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