(Closed) Sigh*……(sorta long)

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Do you have a general estimate of your budget?  Then posters might be able to help with specific suggestions.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Is there any way you can budget to set aside a certain amount every month to put toward wedding stuff?

Maybe you can have a smaller reception and get friends and family to help with food.

I’m sorry that this happened, is there a fire hall you can use, and maybe get some people that would be willing to do set up and clean up?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think it really depends on what is more important to you: the venue or having more of those things (garter toss, first dance, etc).  There are some venues that are uber cheap. One of my friends got a park permit (for 30 dollars) and found a place to rent tables and chairs from on the cheap, and friends and family made the food. They ended up getting married with around a hundred guests in a beautiful park for just over 1,000 dollars.

 

You can make it happen!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You are not in a fun position, but it does sound that you have your priorities straight. BUT, it also sounds like you don’t really want to do a cake and champagne wedding- you don’t have to! There are lots of other options for an inexpensive wedding. You could maybe have an afternoon reception with passed tapas or something and 1 or 2 typea of alcohol. You could still include dancing (ipods!!) and all of the traditions that you obviously want! Defintely don’t compromise. You can do something closer to what you envision on a budget. Or, you could have a small ceremony now, and then for your year anniversay have a big party! Definetly don’t do cake and champagne if it does not make you happy, there are so many options. Good luck and don’t stress!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

What about a Sunday brunch?  Those are generally cheaper.  Or host it in a park or a friend with a large mancured yard.  Hire a caterer from a restaurant you both love and purchase your own alcohol.

and check out this very budget-friendly wedding that was so much fun!: http://2000dollarwedding.com <cite></cite>

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Do you have any family and friends that would be willing to cook and bake? Maybe even host if they have a really nice home or backyard?

Post # 10
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Worker bee

The cheapest I can think of would probably be a pot luck in someone’s back yard. Personally, I love potlucks! Can you see if a smaller, lesser known park has cheaper prices during Sunday afternoons? Or maybe get a permit to do a gathering in the woods or desert nearby? Maybe some helpful, crafty guests can help you make tissue paper flowers a week ahead for decorations?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Don’t forget to shop around for other venues, just like some of the other ladies said.  Our parks district has three or four fantastic rooms (similar to ballrooms!) that rent for around a $300 park pass.  Just because the venue you found now is too expensive doesn’t mean you can’t find one within your means.  You have to get creative, really search, and even haggle if you need to.  You CAN make this work and you don’t have to settle!  Think smaller guest list and lots of DIY.  Good luck, let us know what you end up doing! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh and don’t forget to think about postponing in order to have an off-season wedding or have it on a Friday or Sunday…those can be helpful ways to boost your budget as well! 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Shopping around for other venues might help then the money you save there you can spend on the reception or bills as needed.   There must be some nice parks that don’t cost 1000’s to use maybe ring up local councils in your area and ask, even if it is a county over or something. 

I ended up using a scout camp for our recpetion.   A lovely wooden dining hall with big stone fireplace in a clearing overlooking the prettiest creek in 10 acres of woods.  So maybe try your local scouts even if they don’t have a hall they might have some campgrounds and these tend to be in pretty locations.  Some private gardens have good rates too.  A National park maybe?  If you live in an expensive area are you willing to drive to a cheaper one to hire a pretty place? 

You can save a LOT of money by DIY too so it might be worth looking into other options there too. Its definately more work on a tight budget but its somehow satisfying too, not saying that having lots of money to spend wouldn’t be satisfying  Smile 

This is a great site to get lots of ideas from with very nice and helpful people. 

If you figure out what is important to you and what isn’t at the reception make a list.  I must have this.  I don’t really want that sort of thing.   Then research into the top things you really want to have, you can find ways get them.  Maybe not the cinderella version in your head but a more personalized version you’ve worked out for yourself that will make your wedding have a different meaning  to you because you know how hard you had to work to get it.    Well at least that’s what I tell myself when I am trying to figure out how to get what we want for a price we can afford.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

We went with a state park (we’re in upstate NY). We got the building for $125 plus parking. I found a town park that was about $300 including the use of the indoor room for 6 hours that we were going to use before we moved locations.

Try searching for town and state parks, as well as national forests. A lot of those places have buildings or pavillions that you could use for the reception, and they have naturally beautiful scenery (fewer decorations). Also, look for historical buildings, some of which have large lawns that you can get a permit to use for a day. Be careful that the parks don’t have limits on who can provide food/drink. The town park did, but the state parks in NY don’t.

For food we are having family make everything except the hot food (corn bread, cole slaw, pasta slad, potato salad, green salad), which we are ordering from a restaurant, not a catering company. $700 for BBQ chicken, potatoes, mac and cheese, and pasta for 80 people, plus $50 to deliver it and set up in chaffing dishes. We are having a desert bar instead of a big cake, and my step mom is using her pampered chef cookbooks to make all of the deserts. We are opting for sodas and beer, which we’ll buy in bulk before the wedding.

We are using my ipod for the music, mainly becasue if it rains there is no room for a band or DJ in our building because i refused to cut the list just to hire a band or dj. We are borrowing speakers/amps.

Look around for restaurants that are off the beaten (wedding) path, who might be able to provide some/all of the food at lower costs than catering companies. (They’ll probably be better too!)

I got EXTREMELY lucky by winning a wedding photography package (from Natalie Williams). But prior to that I was planning to hire at least 2 photography students or amateurs looking to build their portfolios for very cheap. Craigslist and the wedding sites are good options, as well as looking around local colleges with photography programs.

If you are outside, hopefully you won’t need to much in the way of decorations, but there is a lot of good stuff on some of the wedding buy/sell websites like bravobride.

We got the the point of saying we were only going to invite parents/siblings/grandparents to our ceremony and then go out to dinner afterwards because it looked like we were going to spend a fortune. Then we finally found our building at the state park.

Good luck! I hope that things work out. Just remember to ask for advice, take lots of deep breaths, and know that things will work out in one way or another.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Have you thought of going back to your vendor that you already gave the 1k to and pleading your case?  You’re so far out in terms of time, that I think with a good reason they would be able to re-book that space.

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