Signing A Co-worker's Birthday Card

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Would you sign a card with anything other than the typical "Happy Birthday!"?
    Yes, because we are a very close group and are all friends. : (16 votes)
    25 %
    Yes, but only for a close co-worker of mine. : (20 votes)
    31 %
    No, not even for close co-workers because it is inappropriate at my work place. : (8 votes)
    12 %
    It wouldn't bother me getting a card with a heart signature or silly pet names (even from guys) : (20 votes)
    31 %
    it would bother me if any of my co-workers signed anything other than a generic greeting : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    LittlePumpkin:  I think it does bother you or you wouldn’t have started this thread. I suggest you relax. The type of person who would do this in a professional capacity, probably does this everytime they sign their name on anything other than a formal business letter.

    ps How did it go at home after you surprised your husband at work on his birthday?

    Post # 3
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    LittlePumpkin:  I would side-eye it but really wouldn’t care too much… I usually sign my name with a heart if it’s something going to a friend or family member. Not so much at work, but I’m not very close with any of my co-workers really either. Now that I think about it I did sign one card for an old co-worker with a heart, but she just found out she had a brain tumor and it was affecting her so badly she had to leave work… 

    Post # 6
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    LittlePumpkin: you said they’re all tight knit right? and you said that, in your job, you wouldn’t think twice about signing a heart to a male coworker or vice versa because your group is tight knit. so…i think this does bother you, but i don’t think it should. she probably signs everything like that. you should know firsthand it means nothing, since you said you do this as well with your work group.

    also…why are you so concerned with literally everything about your DH’s birthday? seriously you’re nitpicking one signature on his birthday card from work. so how did he enjoy his long chill weekend with you after you surprised him? 

    Post # 7
    4147 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    When I worked at my last job, I used to sign with a heart next to my name, to those who I was close to, guys or girls.

    At my current job, I would just say a basic Happy Birthday and sign my name…I work with all men, and the female receptionist, and I’m not close to any of them.

    Post # 8
    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee

    LittlePumpkin:  We have group cards for everyone’s birthdays. I will write a little longer message if i am closer with them, but i always sign my name with a heart….

    even for the housekeeping manager i dont know very well… I hope his wife didn’t take it the wrong way! hahah

    Post # 9
    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    LittlePumpkin:  Maybe the heart was a mistake- I have a tendency to sign cards with “<3Gingerkitten” with the heart flowing into the cursive of my name. Of course, these cards generally go to friends and loved ones. I could see it happening where I would be signing a work card absentmindedly and accidentally do the heart. For all I know, it’s happened and I didn’t notice! 

    Try not to overthink it 🙂

    Post # 10
    3432 posts
    Sugar bee

    We don’t do birthday cards, but we do like “farwell, have a great new job” cards and I’ve never signed anything but my name and a nice thoughtful thing.  I wouldn’t freak out over it.  Some people write like that.  Now that I know your boss writes like that, maybe this is why she didn’t care about your DH having the day off.

    Post # 11
    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I think it’s a little weird that you’re paying that much attention to the card in the first place. 

    My FI has never asked to see cards signed by family/friends, let alone my coworkers. And if his job environment called for birthday cards (he owns a small business) I could careless what was written to him. 

    Post # 12
    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    LittlePumpkin:  Honestly, I try and write anything BUT just “Happy Birthday” because it’s boring and redundant (the card already says Happy Birthday).  So “Hope you have a great birthday” is something I would write and something I’d expect to see in a birthday card.

    As far as the hearts go, I wouldn’t think twice about it.  Many, many women sign their name with a heart and it’s probably just second nature.

    But I’m confused?  Are you or aren’t you ok with how his boss signed his birthday card?  

    Post # 13
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    LittlePumpkin:  i dont think i have ever even bothered to read thru all the messages on a work card. let alone read what people wrote on anyone else’s. foced social crap in the work place just does’t mean enough to me to read into it. people are able to assess what a relationship actually is with a coworker without having to analyze a bday card signature, and that’s what matters.

    i do know i have signed millions of those cards without giving it even a split second of a thought because i am busy ya know, working, so usually id just scribble down whatever came to mind and pass the damn thing along. sometimes i dont think i even knew who it was for.

    as for anyone i was close enough to to actually care what i wrote or for me to care about what i wrote — well, that would mean i would probably be celebrating with them in some way outside of the professional work context, so again, what i write in a work-sanctioned birthday card wouldnt matter.

    I think you really need to let all this birthday stuff go. it all just doesn’t mean as much as it may have used to when you were younger…the implications behind a bday decrease the older you get. you’re causing yourself (and especially your guy) a lot of uneeded stress.

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