Post # 1
DHs birthday was Thursday and a card got passed around for everyone to sign. He works in a legal aid center with literally ALL women, but there are not many people who work there so they are pretty tight knit. Everyone signed with the usual “Have a good day! -Name” except his female boss. Now, he and numerous others have helped said boss get her title. She was better at the job than the previous boss so they managed to get her into that position. His boss wrote, “Hope you have a great birthday!” with a heart and her name. Now, while I dont figure this is particularly professional to sign with a heart, but they are a small tight knit group of people and it is in her personality. I have only met her twice, but the first time I met her, when I left the room she excalimed, “She is so cute!” in a very sweet way.
My job? Hah! I work at a vet office and we address each other with funny pet names, slight insults, winky faces and plenty of hearts in birthday cards. I am slightly cautious when signing with a heart (even though it’s my personality) unless they are women or my guy co-worker is super chill and close to me.
Would you ever sign a card with anything other than a generic “happy birthday” at work? With a heart? Would it bother you if your SO got anything other than the generic greeting? In my case,it ddoesn’t bother me. My hubby is VERY social and VERY sweet so everyone LOVES him. Also, he didn’t get any personal gifts or cards, just what work gave him. It’s never bothered me when I got cards with hearts next to male co-workers’ names or if they called me a pet name. But I know how silly and how close of a group we are and it means nothing other than friendship.
Post # 2
LittlePumpkin: I think it does bother you or you wouldn’t have started this thread. I suggest you relax. The type of person who would do this in a professional capacity, probably does this everytime they sign their name on anything other than a formal business letter.
ps How did it go at home after you surprised your husband at work on his birthday?
Post # 3
LittlePumpkin: I would side-eye it but really wouldn’t care too much… I usually sign my name with a heart if it’s something going to a friend or family member. Not so much at work, but I’m not very close with any of my co-workers really either. Now that I think about it I did sign one card for an old co-worker with a heart, but she just found out she had a brain tumor and it was affecting her so badly she had to leave work…
Post # 4
julies1949: I sign my name with a heart at work too! It doesn’t bother me. I just think it depends on workplace and the person’s personality. I had someone mention to me they thought it was weird that a male co-worker addressed me with a pet name and I thought nothing of it! It’s just a super chill and fun work environment and we are all friends. I posted this to see how many people think it’s inappropriate and in what situations they’d be okay with it, if ever. I am sure in a different workplace I might not sign with silly stuff and hearts next to my name. Who knows!
It went well, thank you for asking! 😀 He was awfully grumpy in general though that day. He said he went to bed at 4 am the nightbefore. . . D’oh! The next day he was very cheerful and haopy though. :o)
Post # 5
BeckyS0: Omg that is so sad! 🙁 Working at a vet office, I try to write something very deep in sympathy cards and always sign my name with a heart. Even if it’s a client I don’t know well, they find much comfort in knowing that you care.
Post # 6
LittlePumpkin: you said they’re all tight knit right? and you said that, in your job, you wouldn’t think twice about signing a heart to a male coworker or vice versa because your group is tight knit. so…i think this does bother you, but i don’t think it should. she probably signs everything like that. you should know firsthand it means nothing, since you said you do this as well with your work group.
also…why are you so concerned with literally everything about your DH’s birthday? seriously you’re nitpicking one signature on his birthday card from work. so how did he enjoy his long chill weekend with you after you surprised him?
Post # 7
When I worked at my last job, I used to sign with a heart next to my name, to those who I was close to, guys or girls.
At my current job, I would just say a basic Happy Birthday and sign my name…I work with all men, and the female receptionist, and I’m not close to any of them.
Post # 8
LittlePumpkin: We have group cards for everyone’s birthdays. I will write a little longer message if i am closer with them, but i always sign my name with a heart….
even for the housekeeping manager i dont know very well… I hope his wife didn’t take it the wrong way! hahah
Post # 9
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LittlePumpkin: Maybe the heart was a mistake- I have a tendency to sign cards with “<3Gingerkitten” with the heart flowing into the cursive of my name. Of course, these cards generally go to friends and loved ones. I could see it happening where I would be signing a work card absentmindedly and accidentally do the heart. For all I know, it’s happened and I didn’t notice!
Try not to overthink it 🙂
Post # 10
We don’t do birthday cards, but we do like “farwell, have a great new job” cards and I’ve never signed anything but my name and a nice thoughtful thing. I wouldn’t freak out over it. Some people write like that. Now that I know your boss writes like that, maybe this is why she didn’t care about your DH having the day off.
Post # 11
I think it’s a little weird that you’re paying that much attention to the card in the first place.
My FI has never asked to see cards signed by family/friends, let alone my coworkers. And if his job environment called for birthday cards (he owns a small business) I could careless what was written to him.
Post # 12
LittlePumpkin: Honestly, I try and write anything BUT just “Happy Birthday” because it’s boring and redundant (the card already says Happy Birthday). So “Hope you have a great birthday” is something I would write and something I’d expect to see in a birthday card.
As far as the hearts go, I wouldn’t think twice about it. Many, many women sign their name with a heart and it’s probably just second nature.
But I’m confused? Are you or aren’t you ok with how his boss signed his birthday card?
Post # 13
LittlePumpkin: i dont think i have ever even bothered to read thru all the messages on a work card. let alone read what people wrote on anyone else’s. foced social crap in the work place just does’t mean enough to me to read into it. people are able to assess what a relationship actually is with a coworker without having to analyze a bday card signature, and that’s what matters.
i do know i have signed millions of those cards without giving it even a split second of a thought because i am busy ya know, working, so usually id just scribble down whatever came to mind and pass the damn thing along. sometimes i dont think i even knew who it was for.
as for anyone i was close enough to to actually care what i wrote or for me to care about what i wrote — well, that would mean i would probably be celebrating with them in some way outside of the professional work context, so again, what i write in a work-sanctioned birthday card wouldnt matter.
I think you really need to let all this birthday stuff go. it all just doesn’t mean as much as it may have used to when you were younger…the implications behind a bday decrease the older you get. you’re causing yourself (and especially your guy) a lot of uneeded stress.
Post # 14
MrsHalpert: It does not bother me that she wrote it like that whatsoever. Being they are so tight knit, I am very surprised everyone else’s greetings were bland. They all have similar personalities there. In my workplace, we all horse around and name call and crack jokes, insert smileys or hearts. I ALWAYS sign with hearts because I guess it’s how I express myself. I am very friendly and majority of my co-workers are awesome. IF I worked somewhere else, I might not address people the way I do in cards how I address them now. His boss and I are just friendly people! A friend of mine thought it was weird that I got a male signature with pet names (before I even knew my hubby and was single) he thought the guy was flirting lol!
Post # 15
OMGMrsW2B: I simply thought it was strange that in a work place where people are so close only one person signed with a little more pizzaz other than “happy birthday” and the name. My co-workers and I certainly get silly with our cards. Hence why I wondered of my job was so out of the ordinary. Nothing less nothing more. We keep our birthday cards up on display in our home because celebrations are fun and mean a lot to us. They forgot about his birthday and he came home, handed me the card and said they remembered and even got him a nice fruit basket. I have only seen one other person sign something more fun than a traditional happy birthday message where my work is clearly not like that. Maybe it’s our personalities and why we do that OR the workplace. I was just curious. I do it because of both.