Signs he going to propose??

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Were you surprised when he proposed?
    Yes : (11 votes)
    48 %
    No : (7 votes)
    30 %
    I had a feeling but wasn't sure : (5 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    2566 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My SO is helping me plan our wedding before he’s proposed… custom rings can take forever!!!!!  I’m assuming my SO ordered/started the process back in June. 

    On the other hand, my best friend got engaged in early August.  Her boyfriend was telling her how he didn’t think he would ever want to get married for months before this happened.  Turns out, he also custom-ordered a ring that took 12 weeks to get from the time the order was finalized.

    It happens!  But don’t get your hopes up.  Just try to keep it out of your mind.  If nothing happens for awhile (2 months or so), have a serious heart to heart about what he wants out of your relationship.

    However, I really hope it happens for you!

    Post # 3
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    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    caligirl0011:  i had no idea that DH was going to propose. i had no idea he was shopping for a ring let along planning the most amazing and romantic proposal and meaningul, and he dropped no hints. He is great like that, and loves to surprise me and I love surprises. 

    We always talked about marriage, and starting a family, it was just a matter of the right time. We wanted to be finacially stable, stable jobs, done with school. We got engaged a little after 8 years and got married on our 10 year anniversary. It was amazing

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    Post # 4
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    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I’m not engaged yet, so I can’t take the poll, but it sounds as if he might be playing the coy game with you. My SO has been doing a lot of that lately. I’ll throw in the customary “don’t get your hopes up” warning, but I really, really hope your proposal is coming soon. Sounds promising! Good luck!

    Post # 5
    Member
    186 posts
    Blushing bee

    I have a couple of friends who have gotten engaged shortly after their now-fiances told them that they would need to wait a year or two long just to throw them off.

    Personally, I had an idea he may propose soon but wasn’t sure as we were only together 8 months before getting engaged.

    Post # 6
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    2726 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t know why guys do this (try to throw women off) but apparently they do. If I was with someone who told me that they would not be ready for several years, I would start thinking to myself that gee, maybe I am not ready either.  My proposal was a complete surprise (no previous discussion re marriage at all) but my DH acted strange and very quiet all that day – I thought he was upset with me.

    Post # 7
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    481 posts
    Helper bee

    nycsa:  Yep, if my partner had said that, I’d seriously question whether I wanted to stay with him – I’d rather be with someone who was enthusiastic about being with me. I don’t know why they do it. It seems deceptive and mean, frankly – a surprise is worth possibly scaring and upsetting the hell out of your partner?!

    My partner and I had been talking about marriage for the past two years when he did it. It was really frustrating for me, because I didn’t even want a proposal or a ring (I’m a big feminist, and we’re eloping…a couple of reasons it seemed unnecessary). He was the one who insisted! It was hard for me to wait around for him to plan a surprise I didn’t really want or agree with, but I went with it because he’s my best friend and I couldn’t stand disappointing him. Thankfully, he never said, “Let’s wait a few years” or anything like that to throw me. I seriously wouldn’t have put up with it!

    Post # 8
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    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee

    caligirl0011:  

    Very similar to my boyfriend as well. He too has been bringing up the topic and like you, especially because I am a bridal consultant, we already have most of the wedding planned. He has been bringing it up alot on his own, but whenever I bring up the topic he says he is not ready. My friends think it is because my birthday and college graduation fall in the same week this December and he is going to propose, but he is trying to throw me off. He knows I am not good with surprises and I always try to find out early.

    Most guys wouldn’t just bring up suff like family, and marriage all willy-nilly and especially not take you to a store and have a cusom engagement ring done. I would say hope for the best with this up coming trip and keep us posted!

    Post # 9
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    4772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Seriously do NOT hold your breath on your ring being finished in time. Trust me. We started designing mine in June, put the deposit down July 1. We left for Hawaii, Aug 10 and I knew he would propose there. Right before we left I found out my ring wasn’t ready, but I thought he was trying to throw me off. When he proposed in Hawaii, I quickly found out it was the truth and my ring was definitely not ready. I wasn’t super surpised by the proposal because I knew it would happen in Hawaii. He did however surprise me last week when he gave me my ring. Bottom line is don’t expect your ring to be ready and a proposal. It took over 3 months from the time it was suppose to be started til the time it was finished. 

    Post # 14
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    caligirl0011: Congrats!!! Turns out he was definitely trying to put you off in order to surprise you!! I am not engaged yet! I am waiting for the proposal around Christmas time.. We are going to have a June 2016 wedding too!!! 🙂 So exciting!!

     

    Post # 15
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    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    caligirl0011:  congratulations!! I’m so glad everything worked out! 🙂

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