Signs he is thinking about proposing on an upcoming trip

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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592 posts
Busy bee

Yeah six months is pretty early, but its all up to the individual couple. Everyone knows the quickly engaged couple who then quickly divorced and everyone knows the quickly engaged couple who stayed together until their dying breath. Is the fact he hasn’t met your family yet the only hesitation you have? Are you unsure of him or unsure of the length you’ve been together?

As far as other people talking, it happens, it’s unavoidable. Gossip shouldn’t impact large decisions to that extent. It’s really up to how comfortable you feel. There’s always the option for a longer engagement or for asking him before a proposal about waiting a little longer. 

Do you have any friends or acquaintences who got married fairly quickly? I ask because if you do, you can use that to bring up the conversation with him. ‘Oh I was talking to so and so today about blah blah. It reminded me of how they got married so quickly I was surprised! If I was in their position then I’d feel blah blah.’

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

…Orr he is worried about your friends’fitness abilities and/or the amount of time it would take to meet up with them when he would rather be hiking all day.

 

look, if you are worried about this and/or want him to propose at the one year mark, you need to talk to him about this. That is something you two need to be on the same page with each other on. Say something like, “hey, we have been talking more and more concretely about wedding stuff and married life, and I think that maybe we should talk about that a little more plainly.” Fertility and finances are great to talk about in advance, but so are who handles what chores where you folks would live, would you want to live together for a while first, what happens if one of you gets a fantastic job offer in another city, etc.  As you talk about that, you can mention that a year together is your ideal for engagement.

Post # 5
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592 posts
Busy bee

All of those sound like good options, honestly. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders trying to be balanced between logic and emotion. So don’t let the situation make you unduly nervous! How long do you have till the trip?

 If you have a week, I’d say just mull it over till you feel really at peace over what to do. It all just depends on what type of person you are and what sort of relationship you and your SO have.

And you’re right, he could not be planning a proposal, lord knows I’ve heard plenty of men planning surprises that beforehand surely looked like a proposal yet they ended up being something else entirely. Obviously since you’re not 100% comfortable with the topic though, it’s still useful for you to evaluate how you feel just too know where you stand, even if your hike doesn’t end with mountain top champagne and a pretty piece of jewelry.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

mohbestie:  who knows really ;-P my DH gave nothing away. i had no idea and he ended up doing it on our vaca. the whole time i had no idea!! 

Post # 8
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t think you should focus on timelines and six months being too short, because for some people it is just fine and others it is way too soon.  So it depends on the individual couple.  I do think you should maybe bring something up to him, not that you assume he is proposing or anything (because you really don’t know) but maybe somehow talk about your future?

Also, maybe have a long engagment like someone else suggested?  That could definitely make it easier to be engaged at six months.  

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