- 5 years ago
Okay Ladies. I’ve been lurking for a longgggg time here. I joined a few months ago but I’ve never posted until now. For over a year I’ve been scouring the internet looking for possible signs that my man would pop the question. I never found anything to help with my craziness. They were all the generic “he uses ‘we’ instead of ‘I'” or “he wants to introduce you to his family” blah blah blah. So, I thought I’d post my story leading up to my proposal that happened YESTERDAY in the hopes I might help some of you girls out.
It all started about a year ago. We had gone away for the weekend and the place we were staying was hosting a wedding reception. We were sitting in the bar and just watching all the people that were there celebrating two lives coming together. Then it started. The slow downward spiral to my “crazy”. He casually started talking about OUR wedding. Where we would have it, how many people, the food we would have etc.. He just never said WHEN this would all be going down. We had a great weekend and went home.
Over the next few months he would again casually bring it up in conversation and I was on cloud nine. I thought for sure the next step would be ring shopping and him getting down on one knee professing his undying love for me. HAA!!!! I think you see where I’m going with this.
About 6 months after our weekend getaway I started getting a bit anxious. I started asking questions to try to feel him out and NOTHING…not a word again from him. I was devestated. I didn’t understand what was going on. I would have at least 1 breakdown a month (around pms time lol). “I don’t understand!!! WHY won’t you talk about this!! We’ve been together for over 3 years and you don’t want to marry me????” Man I was a mess. After a few months of him not saying a word (apparently Marriage was no longer a word in his vocabulary) I started to get really crazy. Hinting around at every chance I got, accidently leaving wedding shows up on the TV when I left the room, asking around our group of friends for ANY hints what so ever and NOTHING. The craziness continued. This lasted for about 3-4 months.
About a month or two ago I started to notice some strange things going on with SO. He started becoming really extra super duper mushy with me. I love you this and I love you that. Helping around the house much more. Surprising me with dinner. Wanting to spend every free minute with me. I was in heaven. This man I love more than life was mine and he loves me more than himself. BUT, no proposal. I’ve read a lot on here about the “shut it up pact” and thought I’d give it a try. So for the whole month I didn’t say a word. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. But I stuck with it.
About 2 weeks ago I started to notice a few more things out of the ordinary. We always joke around with eachother….he will “order” me to do something and I will say “no way!! do it yourself you don’t own this!” Usually we’d continue this joking for a few minutes laughing and playing but this time he’d just look at me intently without saying another word and walk away. Like he was in deep thought. (I’m assuming he was thinking that he will “own” me soon enough) Or we’d be sitting up in bed watching TV and he would be playing with my hand. Holding it, rubbing it, kissing it, playing with my ring finger etc.. this is what got me thinking. On top of that our lovemaking became more meaningful than ever (sorry if tmi) He was more intent on making me happy in the bedroom and it was happening much more frequently than usual.
For the last week or so (I think this is when he bought the ring) he ALWAYS looked like he was in deep thought. Like he really wanted to say something but was holding back. He would just take my face in his hands and look into my eyes and give me the sweetest kisses you could ever imagine. He started to become chilvalrous! haha holding doors open for me and making sure I served myself first at dinner etc. But the biggest sign I noticed this last week was his lack of sleep. He tossed and turned all night long. He had bags under his eyes the size of texas but he couldn’t sleep. I offered to buy a new bed thinking that was the problem and he opposed that idea saying that “money’s tight right now…lets wait a month or two before making any big purchases) I thought that was strange.
This past weekend we went to a wedding. He was so over the top excited to go. He was giddy and being silly all day waiting for this wedding. We had an amazing time hanging out with our friends and celebrating our loved ones wedding day. Then it happend…..the song “all the single ladies” came on and he started dancing and singing hahaha. I just about fell off my chair. He thought he was being so cute and really I just wanted to slug him LOL. How dare he sing that song to me!!!! Doesn’t he know that’s the national anthem to women that want a ring on it?!? Well, apparently he did cause yesterday (the most amazing day of my life). The most amazing man in the world asked me to be with him for the rest of his life. To take his name and wear it proudly. And that’s it! I know there’s wayyyyy more stuff but this post was getting too long. If you have any specific questions please feel free to ask!