Ever since she announced her pregnancy, SIL has basically been acting like she’s superior and it’s really getting on my nerves. She doesn’t say anything directly but there’s a look and a way of acting as if to say that she’s above everyone. I don’t know whether to just ignore her or to continue to be kind despite the way she is acting. It bugs me to no end for some reason because I have never experienced this with my pregnant friends, who act so normal.
I don’t think it’s normal but it is a bit understandable. Maybe right now she DOES feel superior in some way. :/ not saying that’s right but some women flaunt pregnancies while others (me included) look at it as a normal part of our new lives as parents. Don’t let it get to you- soon she may be floored by morning sickness and realize pregnancy isn’t all it’s cracked up to be lol. 😉 Pregnancy isn’t glamorous- and giving birth is even less so!
My SIL is the same way, but that’s just the type of person she is–not just because she’s pregnant. Being pregnant (with their first) is quite a task for her, it seems, though. She’ll complain about morning sickness, and fatigue, like no one else in the WORLD hs ever been pregnant, and she’s so hard done-by. SMH.
A few women I have known have gone through that too. Every conversation is about their pregnancy, all the graphic details. Then I have to re live their birth story with them 4x a day. The preaching over how perfect she has eaten the whole time, how much more perfect her baby us, how much worse her delivery was. Going forward, always only talking about the baby. On and on and on. The general superior attitude to women wothout children… ugh. Not all of the women I know who have had kids are like this, but the few that are, Oy… there’s a reason why we don’t hang out anymore.
Next time you know your going to see her, wear a pillow under your shirt, act like everything is normal, give her “the eye” and the thumbs up like you’re both part of the same club and be all snotty and rude to her….even if she doesn’t figure it out, it will be hilarious!
I just can’t understand it though. Is it because somehow they felt inferior before getting pregnant and now that they are they have to make everyone feel like they are above them? It doesn’t help that now she and my brother keep asking me when I’m going to have one and I’m not even ttc yet. I just feel like she looks at me like “oh you poor thing, you don’t have a child yet.” Ugh it gets old fast.
Are you sure it’s not in your head? The fact that she hasn’t said or done anything to make you feel this way makes it seem like it may be – what do you mean when you say it’s in the way she looks and acts?
@hiheel: Actually, I know of some people who still manage to be smug even when her child only sleeps for about 2 hours at a time and she’s a SAHM with no additional help. One person in particular, she has a background working with SpecEd children and geez, everything she says is like the word of God and she uses all the professional lingo too, even though the rest of the population is like “Huh, what milestone was this again?”