SIL announces pregnancy 10 days after my MC

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry, hugs to you.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

so sorry to hear about your miscarriage – sad times indeed but you will move on, never forgetting of course.  But you have to find a way of dealing with this and need to be happy for your brother in law and his wife.  It wasn’t your time but I can assure you that your family will still be excited when it is your time.  My mum was as excited for her sixth grandchild as her first!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

So sorry for what you are going through.  MC are nothing short of miserable.  Your attitude about everything happening for a reason is wonderful, though.  Keep your head up.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I’m so sorry for your loss. There is no doubt that it’s going to be really hard on you but stay strong and know your time will come.

Your child will definetly be as important I promise. 

As everyday passes it will get better:))))

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m so sorry. That just sucks. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Double post… sorry.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

@nataliegrace90:  Wow your attitude is admirable! It must be so hard, especially because you guys were pregnant first. I am so sorry. It will happen soon for you ((Hugs))

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

🙁  I’m so sorry 🙁

But when your baby does finally come he/she will be just as special as the 2nd grands child.  Sounds like your famiy has no lacking for love 😀

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m sorry that you feel down. I guess it is Something that you can’t change. Try to be happy for your SIL because it sounds like they had been ttc for some time too. It will happen for you 🙂 I’ve had a mc before so I understand how empty you are feeling ATM. FI and I are waiting to ttc after our wedding which is over a year away now. I have crazy baby fever but I just try and think about how amazing it will be once it finally happens! Good luck xx 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m so so sorry about this. I found out when my pregnant SIL was visiting (and I just got the worst AF cramps ever when I’d convinced myself I was preg) than another cousin was pregnant, so if and when we ever get a BFP our baby will be grandchild no 3 (at least). I’m so sorry for your loss, but even though you’re not going to have the first grandchild, I’m sure it’ll be loved and everyone will get excited about the tiny new baby 🙂 And you’ll be able to get lots of help and advice from the other new mums.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@nataliegrace90:  I’m sorry hun. I know that feeling of wanting to be/have something first. My BIL is 11 years older than FI and his wife is 7 years older than I am so everything is happening for them first. They were married in 2010 and had only been together less than one year before getting engaged, and I’ve been with FI since 2008 and engaged last year. I felt like she had all of this attention from his family because they were engaged and wedding planning and I missed out on bonding with his mom because all of her energy went into BIL and SIL. I couldn’t even partake in fun wedding planning conversations and often felt left out. She’s on baby #2 and MIL is over the moon again and my wedding plans seem secondary to her, which is understandable because who wouldn’t be excited to have more grandbabies? Sometimes I feel bad about being #2 in every aspect.

 

You know what I do know, though? My MIL is going to be crazy over mine and FI’s babies as they will be the youngest and the youngest of her grandchildren. She will be delighted to have more grandchildren and love them and be as excited for ours as much as she has been for her first. I have no doubt that your MIL is going to feel the same. And she may even feel a tad bit more emotional after knowing the suffering you all went through together. I know you’re just feeling blah, and rightfully so, but when you have your future babies, all of this sadness will be joy. Cheer up. 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  FIrst and foremost, I am so sorry about your m/c :-(. I can also understand why this really hurts, and you have every right to feel hurt. You were pregnant, you were planning on announcing, but it was just taken away from you in an instant. I know it feels this way right now, but I promise…when it does happen, your ILs will be over the moon! DH’s brother and SIL got married before us and had a child before us. We just announced our pregnancy to our parents a few weeks ago, and they were just as excited as when they found out about the first grandchild :-). It hurts right now, but it will get better. 

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sorry. That has to be difficult. Thinking of you… ((hugs))

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@nataliegrace90:  (((HUGS))) sorry for your loss ;( I hope you get your little rainbow baby soon and I am sure your family will be just as happy of your pregnancy as they are of your SIL’s, as a baby is nothing but a wonderful blessing! …chin up, lady!

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