SIL picking apart her Bro's wedding and telling people why hers was better

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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8071 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@ChaiSoyLatte:  Dont confont her. Its too long after the fact and itll cause a lot of distress for you, her, your DH and your BIL’s GF. Also dont take it to heart- she didnt invent the damn venue and was jealous about you and the attention. None of that is your problem. 

 

 

 

Now you know who she is, and clearly shes not someone you want to be BFFs with. Just grin and bear it and keep being polite. Come to a place of compassion for her- clearly shes petty and troubled. 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
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1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

1. what is wrong with your BIL’s girlfriend that she finds the need to tell you all of this. really immature.

2. stop comparing/dwelling on this. your wedding is over.  act civil toward your SIL and move on. you don’t need to be best friends. 

Post # 8
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8071 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@ChaiSoyLatte:  Yes. Shes a turd. Just shake it off and do not fret. I swear finding compassion for her will help you- shes awful! Poor her. It must be hard to be so insecure!

 

@li612:  and agreed! She should never have tattled on the SIL. If she tries to stir the pot ever again cut her off! “Thanks but I really dont want to know! Its upsetting!”

Post # 9
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8071 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

And really- if youre worried her running mouth will embaress you… Dont. Shes only embaressing herself!

Post # 10
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ugh I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this- what a b*tch! To be honest, she sounds completely jealous, and by saying all these nasty things, she’s only making herself look bad anyway, so if I were you I’d leave her to it and let her run herself in to the ground. My FSIL can be a bit of an arse at times (at one point she actually told me that if she told her brother to dump me, he would at the drop of a hat) but she’s just trying to assert her dominance as the already-family-member, when I am just the soon-to-be-family-member (and it probably doesn’t help that FFIL and my other FSIL are both really close with me). Your SIL is just threatened because you’re officially the new woman in the family now. And if your BIL’s gf sticks around, I think you will need each other, because I wouldn’t be surprised if she did it to her too! My advice would be to leave it, rather than have a big blow-out, because it probably wouldn’t change anything if you spoke to her about it, and might even make her worse. I would also be sure to keep things cordial but not close between the two of you though- someone like that, you can never trust.

Post # 11
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1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ChaiSoyLatte:  sounds like she wants to start drama.  what i meant by the second part is don’t worry about what se said about your wedding..while hurtful, it’s not important. what’s important is that you married your husband.

Post # 14
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808 posts
Busy bee

@ChaiSoyLatte:  Urgh, she sounds like a bit of a nightmare. It’s a shame that SIL and BIL’s GF couldn’t keep their mouths shut, but it seems like all you can do in this case is be civil but keep your distance and don’t do her any favors. As you said, I don’t think calling her out on it would be the right call in the long run, even if satisfying in the short run!

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