SIL rubbing her baby in my face :(

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What should I do?
    never respond to any pics anymore : (32 votes)
    40 %
    respond to some of the pics once in a while : (43 votes)
    54 %
    respond to all the pics : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Have you thought of expressing your feelings to your sister?  I would hope that as your sister, she isn’t intentionally trying to make you feel bad or inadequate. Perhaps, if you tell her a little about your struggles (without attacking her for sending pictures). try to stay neutral in the convo and just talk to her. I bet she hasn’t even thought in that direction. 

    Post # 4
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    8418 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Armina33:  Is it possible that she is just really excited about her baby?  Many moms that I know send tons and tons of pictures of their child.

    Post # 5
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    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @MrsFireChief:  +1!

    Have a conversation with her about your struggles. If she still bombards you with 10x daily photos then she is a real cow.

    Post # 7
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    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Armina33:  

    I would just response once a while because that’s still your nephew, but don’t reply too often, she will get bored when she doesn’t get enough attention.

    Trust me, I know how u feel. I have a SIL who always compare herself to me and put me down a lot too. To the point my mother in law have to say to her that she always put my SIL before me so my SIL don’t get jealous! I mean, c’mon! How old is she to do such things? 

    and one more thing, I’m having issues having kids with my husband as well… I know how u feel… I’m dying for a baby! 

    Post # 8
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    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you don’t want to talk to her about it, I would just respond if I felt compelled to.  If something was like particularly cute or whatever.  Hopefully she isn’t doing it to be passive aggressive and just excited for her baby and it’s coincidental when she sends extras.

    Post # 10
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    8905 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I vote option 4, tell her that while you absolutely love your little nephew, it’s hard to see so many pictures while you’re having fertility struggles.  Unless you haven’t told her about that.  

    Otherwise, make an excuse about your phone filling up too fast / data being used too quickly?

    Sorry about all this  :/

    Post # 11
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    525 posts
    Busy bee

    I actually agree with MrsFireChief…you should see my face book album of my dogs, and they are both now past 2 (since dec 17!)

     

    Post # 12
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d probably start sending the same response to EVERY pic, and see if she figures out that she’s completely overloading you. Something like “Cute ;)”

    But if it’s REALLY bothering you (which I would totally understand), you could always talk to your brother about how you’re secretly TTC and having issues, and that you can’t handle getting more than X pictures per week.

    Post # 13
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    1441 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I wish I got that many photos of my nephew.

    Post # 14
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would respond to ALL the pics with the same exact candid response. maybe she’ll eventually get bored with how you respond! “ugh all she ever says is OMG CUTE, so lame”

    Post # 15
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    3519 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Juher ask her to remove you from that list of recipients.  Let her think what she wants.

    Post # 16
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    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Armina33:  I can see how that would get annoying. Can you see the pics any other way? If so, I say just responding “Cute” to everything, especially if you feel like you’d be wasting your breath if you talked to her about your struggles to TTC.

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