- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
My brother has been married now for 2 years. His wife and him only dated for 6 months before getting married so I didn’t have much time to get to know the girl.
Now they are married with a baby and live close to me. My family is very tight knit, I have lots of siblings all who are married and I get along fine with everyone of their wives/husbands.
This particular SIL has some beef with me. I don’t understand why. I helped plan her wedding, made her a bridal shower, baby shower, my husband and I watched her baby for 2 weeks straight after she was born and now babysit 1-2 times a week.
When my last brother got married there was some confusion on who was making what for the desert bar and after that she sent me lots of mean text messages basically blowing up at me and telling me how horrible I am. She is also always comparing her family to mine, saying things like her mother keeps her house much cleaner than my mother (her MIL)
Now things are awkward not just betwee us but for everyone in the family. I want to be friendly with her but its really hard when someone is constantly attacking you sending you hateful text messages.
At her daughters 1st birthday my husband and I arrived 10 mins after the start time and she yelled at us when we got there and then later sent me tons of mean messages.
I need some advice on how to be kind to her when she is not to me and how to make things less awkaward. I have tried talking to her, telling her she hurt my feelings, appologizing, etc etc nothing seems to work. It’s as if she just hates me.
What can I do?