Post # 1
I’m probably being a brat about this, but I’m annoyed and need to vent.
SIL is not going to our destination wedding because my nephew is too young and she doesn’t want to travel. Totally fine, and I completely understand.
But today she decides that next month (just a day before we have to leave for the wedding) she wants to throw my niece a big birthday party. She has 4 children, and every year, for every single child, a birthday party is thrown. She always holds them at her mother’s house, which is a 2 hour drive from us, and my parents.
My nieces birthday falls on a Monday, and I’ve suggested we do something like go bowling or rollerskating on her actual birthday, instead of having (yet another) birthday party that requires everyone to drive far on a weekend (just days before the wedding). She said no.
My nieces (3 of the 4 children) and parents will be attending our wedding. There will be tons to do on that Saturday of the birthday party, and the days around it. My dad and FI have to get their final tux fitting/pickup their tuxes, my mom’s dress comes in the shop around that time, so she’ll have to get fitted. All of us have to pick up the car rentals. Everyone has to pack.
I guess this is a bit of a vent. And I love my niece and want her to have a great birthday, but I’d love, for once, for my sister-in-law to compromise and understand she’s inconveniencing everyone.
Post # 2
So take your neice out to a special dinner/movie/whatever the weekend before and don’t go to the party. Instead of feeling like she’s out to get you, just feel like she can plan her life and you will atend if you can. Just like how you planned your life and she can’t go to your wedding.
Post # 3
RunnerBride13: Yeah, I’ve already told her our chances of attending are very slim since we would have so much before the wedding.
I’m more annoyed on behalf of my parents. They’re very soft-hearted and often spread themselves too thin. I already know my mom will call me up tomorrow venting to me about this, but they’ll feel obligated to attend since my SIL lives with them.
Post # 4
RunnerBride13: I guess I’m also annoyed because she could plan to have a party at any time. Last year for my nephew’s birthday, she threw him a birthday party a month later. As if that makes any sense…
Post # 5
SprinkleDonut: You don’t have to go to the party. You are leaving to get married, its totally acceptable. Anyone who doesn’t understand that can go scratch. I have a niece and nephew (my SILs kids as well), and I missed 1 or two parties. Its not that serious, we just make it up to them the next time we see them.
The other thing I will say is that, I would never suggest when SIL should have HER kids’ party just bc you want to go. She can throw a party whenever she wants, the world does not revolve around your wedding and plus she figures, since shes not going, it doesn’t matter that its the day before.
Dont worry about this. You are getting married. You bigger things to worry about than a kids party right now