SIL wants to throw her own shower

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2102 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was highly involved in the planning of my shower so I don’t see anything wrong with this scenario at all… 

If you don’t have money to help, just offer your time/hands to help set up or address envelopes for invites or whatever emotional support they need…

I think its nice that she wants to help instead of just sit back and have everyone do it for her.


Post # 4
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can definitely offer to help set up/clean up!

Just don’t mention your distaste for people who throw their own showers!

Post # 5
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m confused… If your SIL is only helping your MIL to plan the shower and your MIL is actually the techinical host, I don’t think it is a big deal.

I wouldn’t step up and offer to help though, expecially if you don’t have the time or money and you aren’t even close to her.

Post # 6
3813 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I’m thinking the OP is implying it’s too bad that the bride is throwing her own shower instead of others throwing it for her?  But it might be that she wants to do it, some people like to have their hands in all the events.

In any case, I agree, you can offer your time to help out with the planning and projects, even if you can’t offer any money, provided you have the time of course.  It would be a nice gesture!

Post # 7
10877 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think it’s your responsibility to say anything.  However, from an etiquette persepctive, neither the bride nor her mother should be hosting the bridal shower. Are their any bridesmaids involved in this wedding? If so, the bride’s mother could offer to pay for the shower, while the maids are listed as hostesses of the event.

Post # 8
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

All the showers I’ve been to – the mother or FMILs hosted it along with maid-of-honor.  Personally – my maid-of-honor paid for the centerpieces, the invitations, and part of the favors, and managed the games that were played.  My other bridesmaids helped with set up and with opening presents.  My mom and MIL paid for the venue and food. And my mom made the other favors (chocolate rose lollipops)!

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