- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2018
I need to get some feeback on this one and sorry if it’s a dosey..
Finally finding the right man at 38 years old, we have been dating for 1 1/2 years, we got engaged this august. I am a planner, so i immediately knew where and what i wanted. I spoke to my venue, got my pricing, hotel rates, everything that is needed. All was good in our world. I was ready to tell all about our date..
Now, i’ll backtrack – future MIL daughter and finance have been engaged since Nov 08 and future plan was going to be married in spring 2009. Also FMIL has another son, who is also engaged, and has changed their date about 4 times, due to their circumstances. No dates were ever set by anyone – just said – 2010 – one in Spring, and the other late Fall. Again, NO DATES WERE EVERSET. and with the constant changing, who the hell was waiting.
So fast forward, we get engaged, we and my family are thrilled – my family didn’t expect anything less of me than to plan somethng for next year. So when i told FMIL the date of Summer 2010 – it all started. Words were exchanged with my fiance – “how can we do this? we are stealing thunder from everyone else – do you think it’s right to be before one of them? Everyone will be upset!!
Now, I have always had a good relationship with his family – UNTIL THIS.. Needless to say, i am so sadden – i have wanted this all my life also, and who is everyone else to put MY Life on hold because they can’t nail down a date. But at this time, one did book their place – and the other ones – who knows. We are talking about 2 months apart from the first one, and then 4 months till the fall one. Am i wrong for not wanting to move mine? I am the one with OOT guest and a large family – not his. We are not going before the sister. The comments that have been said about our date has been so time consuming and full of drama it’s ridicilious. We are 38 years old, not planning on kids, have a house, job. Nothing is stopping us from picking our date except the family drama. And nobody is paying for our wedding but my parents.!!
I do not feel you have a year to be “the bride”. you have a day, and if it isn’t interferring with anyone’s else date – who the helk cares. At the end of the day, is this really going to affect your life? will you be so tramatized that you won’t be able to live your life? if you can’t make the shower or parties, that’s fine. can anyone really say they haven’t been to a few family weddings in a year? I am just sick over this, and it has taken the wind out of the big excitement that me & my fiancee had. What does everything think? i am being “Selfish? unreasonable” for wanting it in 2010??
thanks for the feedback