Silence Is Golden (or diamond, hopefully!)

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ArmyBeee:  I didn’t have that experience, but he might be wanting to surprise you!!

Relax and enjoy all the love girl!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ArmyBeee:  Hehe I definitely get you! I had a Christmas Eve proposal! But focusing on the waiting is hooorrible lol!

Try to enjoy the time you have now! Wedding planning can be overwhelming!!

Post # 7
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441 posts
Helper bee

Mine “disappeared” for about a month. He was distracted, slightly irritated at wedding talk but still very much talking future (house, kids). One day two weeks ago he snapped out of it – like a light switch flipped and we went together Monday to order the ring we picked out in August. He just needed some mental alone time to get in that magical, elusive manspace of “ready”. (Eyes rolling but you hear it all the time). He will come round and talk about the wedding and engagement once he sorts out in his mind how to provide the best future for you and your family. 🙂

Post # 8
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215 posts
Helper bee

I’ve read several threads on here where bees said their SO seemed distant and irritable, to the point where they worried he was going to break up with them but it was actually due to the impending proposal! It sounds like he is trying to throw you off and surprise you – as long as he still seems to be including you in his future vision (which it sounds like he is!), I wouldn’t worry about a thing 🙂

Post # 9
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@SomedaymrsWDS:  This is off the topic but I love your Gollum avatar! LOL.

Post # 10
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441 posts
Helper bee

@DrD711:  STBFi just ordered the ring Monday.  Gimmiegimmiegimmie! My preciousss….

Post # 12
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651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’m with everybody else, I think he’s just dropped it so that he can surprise you 🙂 I’m going through the same thing. The ring has been purchased and it’s in his possession and I know it’s gonna be before New Years! We haven’t spoken a single word about engagements or weddings (but we used to a lot). He was irratable for no reason last night so I find comfort in the fact that it may just be his nerves because of the upcoming proprosal. We are looking to buy a new house (and browsed more last night) so I’m not worried about anything, just anxious for the proposal to happen already!!! 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Just hang in there!  And join the shut it up pact if you have too!!

Post # 14
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208 posts
Helper bee

My SO has done the same thing, no talk about wedding/engagement at all, though he was never very big on talking about it in the first place.  He set a deadline for February, but I’m 90% postive it will fall through, but I’ve promised myself to not say anything about it.  If I were you, I’d try to keep it quiet until after New Years and then maybe talk about it if he’s still distant.  Of course, there’s still Valentine’s Day too… so maybe wait until the end of Feb to bring it up?

Post # 15
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@Sassyfras27:  I’ve heard this as well…I think they just get so overwhelmed and nervous about the whole process, bless their hearts. 

OP, I wouldn’t worry! He’s still including you in his future plans which is the main concern 🙂 Hope you get your proposal soon! 

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