(Closed) Simple advice needed, plus (long) back story for additional advice

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What to do about bridesmaid not responding about bachelor/bachelorette when we need to book it?
    Send the message about saying she has till tomorrow to get back to me or assuming she isn't going : (16 votes)
    67 %
    Send a third message asking if she wants to go? Then if she doesn't respond send another message. : (0 votes)
    Don't message her, just assume she isn't going? : (5 votes)
    21 %
    Other (explain) : (3 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i only read the beginning, but have you even tried to call her? i know i take a lot longer to respond to emails than calls sometimes.

    Post # 4
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @BeautifulKatastrofie: Uhh why dont you pick up the phone?  It seems like all your communication is electronic which is impersonal and can be misconstrued so easily!  Call her, ask her if you can meet for coffee or come over and talk.  It can be fixed so easily!  Bring up your concerns and ask if she is geniuinely wanting to be in the wedding.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I agree with the others…. you need to call this girl.  Also.. you and your fiance really shouldn’t be planning your own bachelor/bachelorette party, maybe she is turned off by that?

    Post # 7
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    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Let me preface this by saying that I am, by nature, not a forgiving person and I can be judgemental. Please don’t take offense to this–just my opinion.

    She is a terrible friend. I read your entire post. She sounds like a self-centered brat. You have reached out to her multiple times over the past YEAR almost with no follow up. She doesn’t want to hang out unless it’s convenient for HER. And it sounds like she doesn’t want to be in the wedding. She’s avoiding you and ignoring you. If it were me, I would have dropped her from the wedding party a long time ago.

    She isn’t too busy to not hang out with you for seven months straight. That’s what friends DO. They hang out! If you aren’t hanging out for 7 months and you aren’t communicating and you don’t even have her new cell phone number, then I consider her an acquaintance–not a friend. BOO on her.

    Post # 9
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    @BeautifulKatastrofie: She didn’t give you her phone number? And shes a bridesmaid?

    Maybe she cant be in the wedding party anymore for some reason and doesnt know how to tell you?

    Post # 10
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @BeautifulKatastrofie: Oh my…she got a new phone but didn’t give you the number?  I’d send one more message asking her to call you (give her your number) and if you don’t hear from her by…tonight, the you have to book it without her. 

    Post # 11
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    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    From what I understood,she can’t call her because she doesn’t have her new cell number. Correct me if I’m wrong. Your FI seems to be communicate more with her than you do. Could you ask him to get her phone number? Or go threw him with those issues?

    Post # 13
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @BeautifulKatastrofie:  She won’t give you her phone number?  That’s just weird.  If I were you I would probably cut my losses with this girl.  Chances are she’ll be a no show at the wedding.

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