Post # 1
I was wondering – do I invite people who don’t live in the area to my bridal shower? I have friends on the west coast, the south, and outside of the US who are planning on attending the wedding. Do I invite them to the shower? I dont want to look gift grabby – at the same time I’m not sure what the appropriate etiquette is?
Post # 2
WeddingBecks: I think it’s best done on a case by case basis. Some people, especially older relatives may feel included by getting the invitation. Others may wonder why they are being invited to a shower, when they are already incurring expenses ++ to attend your wedding.
Depending on who is actually extending the invitation, they may want to include a short note to the effect that “we know you won’t be able to attend, but we didn’t want you to feel left out”.
Post # 3
julies1949: I agree here.
Case by case basis based on who you think would like to be included and who you think might actually be able to come. I wouldn’t invite anyone that has to get on a plane to come (unless your family doesn’t think that’s a big deal). For mine, I didn’t invite my grandmother that was traveling from across the country, but I did invite DH’s aunts who live 3-4 hours away. I figured they would probably like to be included and it was at least feasible for them to come if they wanted.
Post # 4
WeddingBecks: i am only having 1 shower, and invited all of the women who are invited to the wedding. that way, i’m covered, knowing that some people might not be able to come.
Post # 5
I also invited all the women that are invited to the wedding. Out of town guests likely will not be able to make it, but I didn’t want to exclude anyone on the off chance that they may be in town.