(Closed) Since when am I indecisive?? Ugh. Help! (really long- sorry)

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: New venue, now what about the photographer? (with reasons)
    Stay- quality and experience are the most important : (9 votes)
    45 %
    Stay- if you don't hate her, don't stress yourself out : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Stay- the style of her shooting may be similar, but she knows what she's doing : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Stay- talk to her about your concerns (too artsy, not fun), but keeping the quality is worth $1,000 : (0 votes)
    Switch- if it's similar, it's worth saving $1,000 : (9 votes)
    45 %
    Switch- go with the one you have the best chemistry with : (0 votes)
    Switch- newbees are willing to try more things and take more risks : (0 votes)
    Switch- even though the original's great, indoor venues aren't her style : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would decide your photographer based on your chemistry with her.  If you really liked your engagement pictures, then why mess up a good thing? 🙂  But if you’re unhappy with her, then try out the new photographer.  Why not. You only get married once.  And if it actually saves you money, then by all means, reconsider.

    As for the venue, I don’t know what you should do 🙂  Maybe you should ask your fiance what he wants.

    Post # 5
    Member
    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    its its your dream venue keep it!

    if you liked your e-pics, keep the photographer. I’d be wary of a photographer that charges that little ($650) and go with who you know will provide a high quality product.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2778 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @emilyrose114:  I’d say keep it all the same.  As you stated you were already mentally prepared to go in one direction.  Your wedding is less than a year away and you have already spent a year in this one direction.

    Its hard to find a photographer that will work with you for what you want at any price.  Since you can actually afford this photographer I’d just keep her.  Planning in the park might seem like a great idea but it will turn out to be a lot more work than you think (is there parking, whose going to remove all the chairs, and for the loft is there parking downtown?)

    As for the other barn I’d try her again.  If she’s still rude then I wouldn’t do it.  You don’t need some else’s attitude on your wedding day.  Your friend’s copycatting may play a part in what is forcing you to rethink everything.  I don’t know much about pinrest but can you make your account private?  If not start saving things to a word document instead or paint.  That way she can’t access and you can be rest assured that you will be getting your own wedding.  I would honestly be slightly annoyed to if someone kept copying all my ideas not hopping mad just mildly iritated.

    Maybe rustic chic is in right now but how many weddings don’t look dated when you whip out the album 10 – 20 years later?  In my mind its not about how you looked in the pictures its how you felt and that’s what you mostly remember when you look at them.  Either way isnt that part of the fun of looking at the pictures laughing at the styles and clothing that was popular at the time?  And if you wanted to you could still make it classy in a barn, you don’t have to follow any theme just because of your venue.  You could have your wedding at Chuckie Cheese and serve pizza on fine china if you wanted to.  It’s your day there are no rules.  Having classy settings at the tables could be a neat twist all of its own and could be fun and different. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    9 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think that a new photographer might be the way to go based on your comment about chemistry. You do have to spend an entire day with them after all! I am not sure about the venue though. I can relate to your “mental shift” comment. Give it some time and see if you can picture yourself at the loft wedding or if you are really set on a barn location. Both sound like they would be lovely. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    663 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

    @emilyrose114:  Eh, why not go ahead and changes things? I mean you arent pressed for time or money. If changing both makes you happier and will improve your wedding and get you the pictures you want DO IT!

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