Post # 1
There’s a song I would really love to sing at my wedding for my fiance… He proposed to me with a song (Marry Me by Train), and both of us have a long history when it comes to music. We both went to the same high school and were both involved in the vocal music programs there. We even got the chance to sing a duet together at our choir director’s retirement last year. So, basically what I’m saying is, singing isn’t random for us – it’s a shared passion.
Is this an appropriate idea? If so, when is an appropriate time to sing the song?
The song, by the way, is 1,000 Years by Mark Schultz.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
Funny that you posted this today. We were just talking about this last night.
I am a singer (musical theatre performer) by profession, and FI wants me to sing at our wedding.
I have to be honest, I feel really weird about it. I don’t want to. I feel like the whole day is about us, and me, and then to get up and sing? Well, to me that feels kind of like work. And narcissistic. (sorry, I’m not calling YOU a narcissist, thats just how it would feel to me if I did it.)
But if you are all for it, I would wait until the dancing part of the reception, well after the toasts but before the cake cutting.
And your song choice is lovely. 🙂
Post # 4
I guess I’m trying to decide if it’s any different from someone else singing at my wedding…
My dad has sung at TONS of weddings… if you can hire someone else to sing a nice song, why not sing one yourself?
Post # 5
I don’t see a problem with it 🙂 I know several people who sang for their new husband/wife at their wedding. One was done during the ceremony, the other done during the reception. It’s a cute idea!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
@inky_1: I say, do what makes you happy!
When I’m working, I can’t drink (or eat sugar) because it affects my voice, so I just know that I will be miserable waiting to sing so that I can have a drink. Or eat.
Anyway, enough about me.
Sing your song!!
Post # 7
I don’t sing, but I just wonder if on your wedding day you’ll want to do this- like, I understand the meaning and the importance, but this sounds kind of stressful and to add that on top of all the stress you’ll be experiencing that day seems like a lot. Just something to think about!!
Post # 8
@caits615: Well, if I change my mind, it should be easily omitted 🙂 I’m not talking during the ceremony – I’m talking like during the reception maybe? Before the traditional dances? Something like that. IDK. I’m thinking “out loud” here lol.
Post # 9
I honestly have been thinking of doing the same for my husband. I dont sing professionally but he loves it when i do sing. And everyone in my family sings, ive just always been the artistic one and have never really sang in front of anyone. But i have been playing with the thought for a while now. Im thinking of singing Mumford and Sons “I will wait” not as fast as they sing it but ore of an acoustic slow way. Fingers crossed
Post # 10
I thought about singing for my fiance at our wedding as well, but I decided against it.
For me, it was because I didn’t want one more thing to worry about on that day and I knew that I would just cry all the way through it. So, my friend will be singing at our wedding and I will be singing a song for him at the rehearsal dinner instead. For me it made more sense to do it in a more intimate setting.
But, if you feel compelled to sing for your fiance at the wedding….more power to you. Do what you feel is right for you.
Post # 11
My hubby sang to me after dinner and just before we opened up the dance floor. He was amazing, and it went over really well:
Post # 12
I’m of two minds.
Normally, I find performances like this very awkward. Like, it’s going to end up being that YouTube video where the bride sings herself down the aisle (and she wasn’t very good anyway). My cousin sang at a family gathering because she was auditioning for a school play once, and it was awful and awkward (I have no idea how she ever got into her school choir).
However, FI’s cousin serenaded his new wife at the reception. He sang a Red Hot Chili Peppers song while he played the guitar (and had some old band mates back him up). I thought it was great–it was very well done and was very sweet.
If you’re going to do it, I would do it at the reception.
Post # 13
@vorpalette: Reception is where I planned to do it – it would NOT be part of the ceremony. And I wouldn’t like pull him out on the dance floor and perform it or something like that. It would be just a song I’d sing & dedicate TO him, but not like sing in his face. lol.
Post # 14
If you’re comfortable doing it….then I guess it’d be alright for the reception.
Weddings are stressful in their own right without having to add any pressure of having to perform in front of the most important people of your life.
I’ve watched many many vids on youtube where people sang at either their wedding or reception. A lot of them had decent to pretty good voices, but the sound equipment they used was pretty mediocre (either that or they didn’t get enough practice time using it) and that can make a really big difference.
Its not up to me though, but I know I prefer that the B & G not perform at their own wedding. Sometimes its great, sometimes its just awkward for everyone.
Post # 15
I have been to two weddings where the bride sang. First one, it was a bit cringy, weird song choice (jazzy version of “My Favourite Things”) and her voice was average. Second time, she is an amazing singer (she currently has a lead part in the West End – UK version of Broadway), and it was absolutely brilliant!
Basically, I think if you are great singer it would be awesome. If you are average, maybe sing for him in private on your honeymoon!
Post # 16
I’m back and forth on the idea. Definitely NOT ceremony, but you could easily work it in to the reception. I think if you have an actual band, it wouldn’t seem as awkward, or karaoke. NOT saying it wouldn’t be wonderful, but it’s teetering on the line, depending on the flow of things.
I do say go for it, do what feels right, and it sounds like you can very easily pull it off, vocally, so it wouldn’t be a train wreck…unless you’re on your 5th liquor drink.