Post # 1
I know the general consensus on these forums about brides singing to grooms is that its cheesey and unconfortable for our guests, but i still wanted to get some opinions.
I had the idea to do this for him because we both enjoy singing and have wanted to take professional vocal classes for a long while. i am not a professional singer, but thought it would be a nice gesture for me to open up, be vulnerable, and do something hed never expect of me. I am not huge on being the center of attention, and think that he would appreciate me stepping outside my normal comfort zone to do something that would be meaningful for him. i would by no means get up on a stage and rock anything out, just a simple heartfelt song for him. I would do it during the reception as well, i think that during the ceremony is definately too much. We are also having a small intimate wedding (approx 50 people) with probably 80% close family members and the rest very close friends.
I would be taking weekly or biweekly vocal lessons until the wedding to prepare myself, and picking a song that would be appropriate for my voice and not too over the top. Another thought would be to sing just the first part of our first dance song as a suprise and then having him join me for the dance. Any ideas on this? I have my first professional training session in a few days, so i may change my mind and chicken out if the coach says I have a long way to go. Anyways thanks guys!
Post # 3
@veassie: I’m not a fan of doing this, but only you can make that decision. I, personally, think that singing the first part of your song and then having him join you is just not quite right… it’s your song and is supposed to be together, not about you.
It’s just my opinion… I know it’s probably not what you want to hear.
Post # 4
I’m really not a huge fan of people doing this, but you know your crowd better than I do!
Post # 5
I’ve been singing most of my life. I was a voice major in college and took several years of formal lessons and even I didn’t feel comfortable singing at my wedding. For the most part, I don’t think it’s a good idea unless you’re Beyonce or something. How you perform in a closed lesson is COMPLETELY different than how you perform in a stressful situation in front of your nearest and dearest, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with it. I say nix the whole idea and spare yourself the possible humiliation of tanking (it can happen to anyone!) but ultimately it’s your decision.
Post # 6
Go for it, if this is what you really want to do, but I think you would want to be pretty certain of your abilities before you try something like this. Also, think about how your fiance and the rest of your audience might feel – would he be at all self-conscious about this?
Post # 7
Ugh, these posts always remind me of the Bridezillas episode where the girl sang at her own wedding and her voice was terrible =o/ I’m sure you’d sound better than her, but like others mentioned, you never know how you’re going to sound in a situation like that.
I’ve got to be honest, too… if I was at a wedding where the bride sang, I’d kind of think she was pretty egotistical. That’s just how it comes off to me, but maybe your family/social circle are all singers or something and it would be different to them.
Post # 8
You also have to consider that…
1) You might be so emotional in the moment that you can’t sing
2) You will be too nervous in the moment and the whole thing will come off as awkward
Not to scare you or anything, just sharing what would be cons for me in considering this.
Post # 9
Even if the bride had an amazing voice, I would find watching an intimate moment of her singing to her groom very cringey. Maybe you could sing to him on your wedding night, I think that would be kind of cute and it would show him the daring side of you without being uncomfortable.
Post # 10
@MadameTussaud: I had nightmares about that chick after watching her episode. It really concerns me that she thought she was talented enough to perform in front of all of her family and friends. It makes me wonder how some of these other people actually sound if she claims she’s “gifted”.
Post # 11
I vote… too personal… would probably make the Guests feel awkward.
Most Brides say they feel uncomfortable enough saying their vows outloud in front of everyone… can be very emotional sharing such a private moment (no matter how prepared one thinks they are)
Lol, I vote you save the singing duo for the shower for the two of you on the Honeymoon.
Post # 12
I didn’t know brides did that at their wedding. I only heard about it from my mom who suggested I should do it. We are hispanic so I thought it was a hispanic tradition. I personally won’t do it because it seems to be so intimate. I rather sing to him when we are alone. I sing to him all the time, even though my voice is a bit slurry. He enjoys it because its just a fun little thing I do for only him 🙂