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I read on a blog a little while ago that one bride wrote it was the worst decision of her wedding to sing their vows!
I'm not sure how it all would work, but just from my perspective, I think it would be a little strange! But, of course, do what ever works best for you!
I think this is an awesome idea!! are you planning on singing this song by alicia keys? While I think this would be a lovely sentiment, it could be even more touching if you change some of the lyrics to be your own worded vows (you could still use the same tune though, obviously!).
If you're at all nervous, I'd suggest you keep it a secret - the guests won't have the mindset of watching a performance, but they'll be surprisingly pleased! I really think you should go for it!
My sister's husband sang a song to her after she walked down the isle. It was a complete surprise to everyone (pastor included)! It was sweet and he definitely isn't a super-star singer! Just a suggestion! 
I absolutely love seeing unique & different things at weddings and feel that couples should have their ceremonies & receptions that are unique to their personalities. Plus everyone expresses their love differently!
To avoid the shock factor you could add it to your program that your vows will be sung that way nobody gets startled when you start belting it out. But overall this is your chance to tell everyone how much you love your FI and you should express it the way you want to :)
Is anyone else having a flashback of Uncle Jesse singing "Forever" to Becky on Full House? No? Just Me? Okay.. anywayyyyyyy
I think you are comfortable with it, it is a lovely way to make it personal. As you make this decision though, perhaps consider a few things: Will is make your groom feel awkward that he's not singing? Will you be concentrating too much on how you sound than in the meaning of your vows? Are you comfortable with that attention -- I have a feeling you may spend the rest of the night having people talk about that.
As a guest, I personally would not enjoy it -- but again that is JUST me. I would feel it was a little indulgent for the bride to do it and would feel a little awkward. However, your guests may feel completely different. Maybe ask your MOH or other close friends how they feel about it.
Good luck and let us know what you decide!
@GaBGal: I totally forgot about that scene in full house! I loved full house!
found it for you guys, if you want to see it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WZkEz28g4s
I'm not surprised this poll is split 50/50 - I think what could make or break this is how personal and heartfelt you make the moment (and I don't doubt that you will!) Good luck on whatever you decide!
I voted awkward because as a guest at MY wedding with ME singing I can imagine my guests being uncomfortable BUT if your guests know you sing and if your FI is comfortable with it then I say GO FOR IT! I don't know anyone who would be brave enough to do that (or anyone that can carry a tune 
) I think it can be very touching and fun.
I'm all for this, but I have a few thoughts:
1) are you going to be emotional so that it becomes hard for you to sing? That might make things complicated.
2) Are you confident and rock-solid enough in your singing to get through it? If you are a really amazing singer, this could be very touching.
3) Is your groom going to sing his? Would it seem weird if you did and he didn't?
Being here long enough, I've learned that anything can work... depending on the person and the vision!
If you have doubts or are unsure, you might want to sing at a different part of the wedding, but if you think you can pull it off, I say go for it!
Instead of singing your vows, have you thought about singing in a different part of the ceremony? Or even at the reception?
A friend of mine, as a total surprise to the groom, sang a song to him at the reception. I saw the video and it was very touching, cute, and people really enjoyed it.
I don't feel like this would make your guests uncomfortable. That is, as long as it's relatively short! I don't know if everyone has seen the YouTube video of the bride singing as she goes down the aisle (and I can't get on at work or I would find it for you) but the thing that makes that video soooooo painful and weird is that she sings for like 6 or 7 minutes. If it's short and sweet, say 1-2 minutes tops, I would say go for it. I mean, your vows are the most personal part of the ceremony, so I think it's better to do something unusual but meaningful to you than just repeat words that have no significance to you whatsoever.
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I love it! If you won't be too nervous or emotional to sing, then it's a lovely idea. And of course, you would have to practice heaps beforehand, but it's such a sweet gesture. If I were a guest I'd cry! Good luck!
I think it's a wonderful idea to sing something special to your groom. Without knowing the details of your wedding, etc. I would think it might be more comfortable for you, him and your guests if you waited until the reception. I've seen that done in the past and it's so touching and everyone is much more open to the idea - it doesn't seem so out of place. Overall, I thnk it's a great idea, the timing may just need to be worked out. Keep us posted!
Thanks for all the responses. If I do ultimately decide I will be singing my vows and not singing during the reception. I have other plans for the reception and singing is not one of them (thankfully) and the wedding will be so short and the song is so short that it is really the only place I think I could place them where it would be okay.
I have yet to ask the FI about it though. He shall have an interesting response, I'm sure.
The song is really beautiful, but I am hesitant about the concept of singing this song for your vows. I agree with DoctorGirl's reservations that you might become really emotional or nervous to do this and it could ruin it, especially because you say that you haven't been singing regularly for several years and would want to improve your voice. I wouldn't want to take that chance with my vows. Maybe you could find a place to play this song during your reception?
I voted awkward, mostly because I attended a wedding where the bride did this, and although I know she normally has a really great voice, it was too much for her that day and it sounded really bad. I don't know, if someone were a professional singer and had no problems performing in front of people, it might work, but I can't shake the awkward feeling I get when I envision a bride singing on her wedding day.
You might not realize right now, how nervous you will be on your wedding day. (And perhaps you won't), but I always felt, no need to put even more pressure on yourself, especially for the ceremony. Once you can elbow up a few at the reception, I think that would be fine...
I never witnessed a sung vow before, but I have seen a ceremony in which the bride and groom were a bit dramatic (theater people). I can't say that it makes me feel "uncomfortable". But I think the emotional response is more secretly eye rolling and gagging. Could you at least sing the song at some other point in the ceremony? And just have regular vows for your vows?
I went to a wedding where a bride ran over to the piano, started playing & then sang in the high-high-high G range. I mean, she tried to mimic Mariah Carey in the end of the song "Heartbreaker". My friend and I sat in our chairs with our heads down trying not to laugh. You could see EVERYONE (including the groom lol) was completely uncomfortable & trying not to laugh. At first we thought it was a joke, but then she got a little teary eyed & her voice started to crack.... oy!
Thats what I am doing. I write music and lyrics and I am writing a song for my FH and I know everyone will like it. I sing to him all the time and he told me I should try out for AI(American Idol) lol.
Its up to you though, if you can pull it off go with it.
Im a singer too-I keep thinking about how I could do this without being stupid and corny- If I decided to do it I would pick a song that I knew could sing upside down and backwards. Worrying about lyrics or a high E right before you say "I do" would be VERY nerve wracking. ..unless you were like "I DOOOOOOOOO" and then hit the high E on "do" and get it over all at once. LOL. j/k
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I always thought I would use the standard "Do you take Groom to be your lawful wedded......" but I started listening to an old CD and started to think about maybe singing my vows. I don't sing anymore and haven't really sang in at least 6 years so I would need to improve my voice before I did it but I just cant get the idea of doing it out of my head. I mean, if there was ever an occasion for me to sing this would be it, right? However, would it be weird for me to just stand up there and sing to my FI? I just cant help but imagine how awkward it would be. I've seen super talented guitar players sing their vows but I'm not super talented like they are.
If you were sitting in the audience, would you enjoy seeing this trainwreck or look away? Honest replies please.
BTW, the song is this really short pretty by Alicia Keys. You can hear it here on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnaPsHhS9lM
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