(Closed) Single best friend claims "wedding plans"

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Your friend is being selfish. She’s not even dating anyone!

 

ON THE OTHER HAND…this kind of may be all she “has”…I’d most likely just let it go, personally, but I don’t know your interactions. Is this the time of things she’d end a friendship over/throw a hissy fit over?

Post # 5
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2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Yeah Im sorry your friend is being kind of ridiculous. Im sure there are plenty of other brides you used that song at their wedding this year!!! It’s not “hers”, she does not “own” it.

That said, I agree with a PP, if you’re not totally stuck on it, maybe use something else so you dont have to hear about it lol 😛 but if you love it use it. If you have to, explain that it means a lot to you and its not stealing her song, lots of people will use it.

Post # 6
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She’ll get over it. She isn’t allowed to call dibs on stuff for her fake wedding lol use the song you love!

Post # 7
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12 posts
Newbee

Use the song you love. By the time, if ever, she gets married, you and her both know they’ll be another song that she loves. 

Post # 9
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2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you have your heart set on it use it… Trust me no one except the bride and groom remember what song was played at the ceremony anyway so if she was to get married in say 2 years and she still wanted it no one would say oh this is the song that @ChelseaLuv Had at her wedding 🙂 

Post # 10
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5405 posts
Bee Keeper

LOL. I wouldn’t worry about her imaginary wedding!

Post # 11
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11174 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Honestly she’ll probably forgot all about it soon enough. If that is really the song you want I don’t see any harm in moving ahead with it.

You don’t get to claim wedding plans when you are single. Yes it is okay to share ideas but nothing is sacred except for dates really.

Post # 12
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7794 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell her you’re using it and that’s that. End of discussion.

Post # 13
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

ummm how many brides have walked down to the old wedding march song? Tens of thousands! Who gives a rat’s ass if you walk down to the same song? And if you’re getting married first you get first dibs. She can use the same song bc you will have different guests, and those guests who attend both your weddings (whenever her future wedding is) they probably won’t remember it anyway.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yah, that’s insane.  Especially since I went to 4 weddings this year and every bride walked down to that same exact song.  I swear it’s becoming more popular than the bridal march…

Just let her know that it’s an extremely popular song and that EVERYONE is doing it nowadays so it’s too late for it to be “her” song.

Post # 15
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Whenever she does this, just smile sweetly and compliment her on her excellent taste for liking something that you’ve already chosen.

Post # 16
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846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i would just avoid the subject and play it at the wedding. hopefully by then she will have either moved on from it or won’t care as much.

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