Post # 1
Are any of you experiencing this?
I noticed that my single friends starting excluding me from nights out ever since I got engaged….and it’s even worse now that I’m married. I’ll find out that they were all hanging out, and never bothered to call me even if I was around the corner from them. I would ask why I never got called, and they would say, “We just assumed you were busy doing the married thing…”
It just stinks because I’m usually the one to organize a group of friends to go out/go on trips whenever I have the time (which is not that rare…it just happened last week), but if I’m not the organizer, then I don’t get invited! And when I do organize, I don’t just invite the married people, assuming the single people are doing “the single thing.”
Post # 3
And for the record, my husband is not attached to my hip and doesn’t come out with me all the time…in fact, he is as close to a few of them as I am…we met within this group when we started dating.
Post # 4
I have this same problem… my single friend “forget” to include me now that I’m a couple.
Post # 5
Yeah, we get left out a lot now 🙁
Post # 6
Same here!! Very depressing, but at the same time those that do still make the time to include you allows you to see those that true friends.
Post # 7
this has happened since I have become engaged but I dont mind since all they do is go to bars. That tends to get real old real fast.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
This has been happening to me ever since we moved in together in September. We get left out of stuff a lot because they think we want to spend time alone and that they’d be bothering us. I tried to explain that wasn’t the case but it hasn’t helped anything.
Post # 9
Yes this does happen alot.. people assume I’m always with Fiance and wont have time for them. I am will Fiance alot and I am very busy now because of all the planning but I still try to make time to do stuff with my single friends.
Post # 10
I’m having the same issue, except all of my closest friends are doing it. None of them text me or call me anymore. They never want to meet up. If I want to hear from them, I have to play phone tag with them until they talk to me. (And even those talks are distant and awkward.) If I want to hang out with them, I have to be the one to set it up and they usually don’t hang out for very long until they say something like, “Well, I’m sure you need to get back to your fiance.” If my fiance comes home while they are visiting our place, they make some excuse and leave. I know it is not due to any problem they have with him, they just seem to think that if he is home that we need to be alone. They never ask much about the upcoming wedding, they only say that they’re excited. I’m a little offended that for the most part, they haven’t wanted to get to know my fiance…they just treat him like some unwanted outsider. They are all single, one of which has never even had a boyfriend. So maybe that is the issue? I don’t know. I just know that I really want to find some married/engaged friends now, but I don’t know how to.
Post # 11
I’ve always found that when life throws you change you find out who your real friends are. I’ll tell you, I’ve stopped being friends with a handful because of it. It’s tough essentially “dumping” your friends. But on the plus side, the ones who showed themselves to be genuine people are still around and I couldn’t be happier to have them in my life.