(Closed) Single Mom, 2nd marriage – What do you ladies think about this:

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think that’s very special, I am a mother of 3 and this is my 2nd marriage as well. I believe the children would love to be able to look back and say I was a very special part of my mom’s day. He does need to be included because your FI is marrying your son as well! My girls are my FGs and my son is my ring bearer.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it’s sweet. My sister’s friend had her 13 y/o son walk her down the aisle and everyone thought it was a perfect way to include him in an extremely important day. I might have teared up a little!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Personally I would find that cute and very touching!  I’d say go for it.  🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Both my sons are giving me away. I think it’s a perfect thing to do.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mbaldan:  Have you spoken to them about it?  At 11 and 12 they’re old enough to have a conversation about their feelings about the wedding – perhaps they feel that their roles are sufficient?  May I ask why you’ve decided not to designate them roles?  Could your daughter not be a Jr BM?  And my FI couldn’t decide on his Best Man, so is having 2 – your FI could perhaps ask both of his sons to be his Best Men?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Hi!

I am a single mom of two older boys and a 10 yo D…and you don’t have to listen to me, as I am going to poop on your parade and it seems everyone else likes it. I really don’t. But it is just me, my opinion, and you do whatever makes sense for you and your family, please.

 

But you asked, so there it is (ducking).  I honestly don’t think your son should give you away because the families are joining together. That special walk is for the dad who, back in the day, did this to transfer ownership. The history and meaning doesn’t match what I think you are going for. How about he is a ring bearer, or the three of you walk together down the aisle…or you go by yourself and have the son be the “best little bud”. I don’t know. I am walking by myself and my D is the only JR BM and the boys are ushers.

Again, just my thoughts and whatever you do will be right for you 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

My son is only 4(will be 5 at the wedding) so I suppose it’s different – but we will be the ring bearer. He’ll also be included in other ways. I guess I’m just too much of a daddy’s girl not to have my daddy walk me down the aisle.

An 8 year old or older child probably wouldn’t want to be a ring bearer.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Why not have both of your children walk you down the aisle? I really worry that the kids could feel that you and your fiance are playing favorites, only having two of the four children involved in the ceremony. Sibling drama can be hard enough. I’d recommend having ALL of the children involved in the ceremony, or none.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think its great to include the kids as it represents the joining of two familys. I would include the other two kids as part of the wedding party to make them feel like its a speical day for them too.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have to agree with PP fivemonthsnotice..

I am a mother to a beautiful 4 year old girl. (from a previous marriage) For our ceremony, she is walking with me down the aisle. But she isn’t “giving me away”. My daughter and I are joining FI, to become a family unit. She will often say that she’s marrying FI too, which is so sweet. I even spoke to my dad about this, asking how he would feel not walking me down the aisle. He loved the idea of my daughter walking with me. We’d love to incorporate her in more of the ceremony but nothing is sorted out yet.

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