Post # 1
I have a cousin who is single with a 6 year old son. She has her boyfriend stay over at her apartment at times and her parents were not aware of this. Her mom happened to come by the other night unexpected and they were settled in for the evening. Her mom is quite unhappy about this situation. She feels this situation is wrong and that the boyfriend shouldn’t be staying the night. I am not sure how I feel about this. Should single parents only have the partner stay if the child is gone?
Post # 3
I really feel like it is up to her discretion what is ok to do or not do around her child, and it’s really not her moms business. For me personally, I guess it would depend on the situation. I wouldn’t want a lot of boyfriends coming in and out of my child’s life, but a serious boyfriend that has been around a long time and might be leading to marriage I might be ok with staying over now and then. It’s hard to say because I’m still pregnant with my first and not in her situation. But I feel like it is her choice, not her moms.
Post # 4
I’m confused…does her mom live with her. I lived with my now Dh before we were married but with my son. My mom tried to talk my SO out of it, quoting statistics. He was polite about it, but told her 50% of marriages fail, anyway, and he’d take the risk. I wouldn’t have let a guy stay over with my son without discussing marriage, though. Who knows where these people are at, it’s best not to judge.
Post # 5
It depends on the seriousness of the situation. If she has a new boyfriend every week, I don’t think it’s appropriate to introduce the child to them. My mom had 2 live in boyfriends while I was growing up, both relationships of 4+ years, so I wouldn’t consider it bad parenting. The fact that they were abusive (to my mom, not us) makes it bad parenting. I think my husband should have waited longer to let me stay over when we first started dating, but his daughter sees me as her mom now (her mom isn’t in the picture) so it all worked out. It’s really up to the parent and the relationships as well as the age of the child. Six is a little young to be bringing guys around unless it’s a serious, long-term thing and they guy is involved in the child’s life.