- 5 years ago
Here’s the sitch.
Tl;DR, my younger sister’s college expenses are a financial burden on my parents, which bothers me because my older sis and I practically killed ourselves to get through college on our own and younger sis cannot be bothered to get a job.
Me and my older sister went to the same college and worked our asses off trying to get through. I used to get my meals in the cafeteria (which were covered by my meal plan) to-go so I could load up on food so my sister could have a real meal that day. Older sis worked but still could barelymake enough to stay in her two-room slum apartment. Our parents helped her out with 1/2 her rent a couple of times.
Younger sis chose a public uni which, in theory, should have been less expensive than our private liberal arts school. But she also chose to live on campus depsite the fact that her college is only an hour from home.
Last week I was talking to my mother and I found out younger sis doesn’t have a job and hasn’t had a job anytime she’s been in school.
Her scholarships are not covering her full tuition and she had to get loans for the rest. Well, that’s what people do. But she didn’t get student loans, she got short term loans that have to be paid off by the end of semester. My parents are paying these for her in addition to her rent.
This is definitely a financial burden on my parents and it upsets me because my dad has worked very, very hard to support us for 20+ years while my mom took care of us. Dad is nearly retirement age, but I know he won’t be able to retire with as much debt as they’re carrying. My mother even straight up told me that money is very tight right now.
According to my mom, the reason younger sis says she hasn’t gotten a job is that s he wouldn’t have enough time for her extra-curricular activities if she got a job.
Big whoop! Who cares! I would have LOVED to have joined more clubs! I bet my older sister would have enjoyed that as well, or just enjoyed having regular meals.
Also, apparently, a work-study job IN HER MAJOR (so it would actually help her studies) has been open for a while, it pays 1/2 again hourly more than my ‘real’ job, and she’s “thinking” about taking it. What? Why thinking? Why doesn’t she have this job already??
I know that parents want to help their children and my parents wouldn’t do this unless they were okay with it, and it’s not really my business how they spend their money. But I’m mad at my sister for even putting them in that position. Never once in my life have my parents had money to spare, with 4 kids to provide for. Now that we’re growing up and leaving the house, this was supposed to be their time. Instead, they’re accumulating my sister’s debt.
Can anyone help me stop feeling so mad at my sister? 🙁 I love her very much and I just can’t believe she’s being this selfish. Why does she get a pass on working like the rest of us?? How can she be okay with it?
I’m sorry this is so long. I tried to include only relevant information.