posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s a little unreasonable to ask someone to cut their hair for your wedding. Rat tails don’t appeal to me either but what can you do? Is it possible that his feelings were hurt after you asked him to cut his hair and so he refused to walk with your dog down the aisle? 


Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

… however, my nephew is now saying he wont cut his hair (he has a rats tail, and i personally cannot stand them, they look cheap and trashy) and will not walk my dog down the aisle as she is in the bridal party too.

someone elses hair is trashy but you have a dog in the bridal party – am i the only one that laughed?

i think you need to pick your battles and a kids rats tail isnt one to kill a family relationship over

Post # 5
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with texasgirl29 , I think it was quite rude to ask him to cut his hair and I am sure it embarrassed/offended him and his mother.  

Post # 7
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yea, I’d hate to say it, but I think it was rude of you to ask him to cut his hair. I personally despise rat tails…I didn’t even know that people still had them. But feelings aside, you asked for them to be in the wedding and then after accepting you put conditions on their participation.

Post # 8
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@futuremrslennon:  Well if you don’t think he will behave at your wedding than cut your losses. She should be able to control her child.

Post # 10
4371 posts
Honey bee

If you don’t want him there, rattail and all, then don’t invite him. It’s ok. But know that means your niece and sister won’t be there either. You can’t have it both ways, you just have to decide what’s more important to you.

Post # 11
46266 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do not think any bride has the right to ask anyone to cut their hair as a condition of being in the wedding party. We pick our attendants for who they are, not who we want them to be.

You have a right to have your dog in the wedding, but by the same token he has a right  to refuse to accept any positon that involves walking your dog down the aisle. ( I know I would).

Your sister however, should attend your wedding as a guest if she chooses not to accept the retrictions you have placed on the appearance of her son as a member of the wedding party.

I think her answer who knows, he is a boy  was her attempt at humor given your complete lack of understanding of the importance of his hair to him


Post # 12
6826 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree you can’t tell someone else especially if it isn’t your child to cut their hair for your wedding. You are completely over reacting here.

Post # 13
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@futuremrslennon:  Honestly, if he is that terrible wy in the world would you ask hbim to be in the wedding or expect anything different from him? I am also in the camp that you shouldn’t ask him to cut his hair, a nice clean ponytail would work. Let your sister cool off and then apologize for getting so wrapped up in wedding planning.

@eloping:  LOL!

Post # 16
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

dont you dare bring my dogs being at my wedding into this, that is high irrelevant to what i asked.

its a public forum, you are the one that gave your opinon on what you thought was cheap and trashy – i understand you love your pet but not everyone feels the same way.  i think you need to let your nephew have his hair the way he wants (its a rats tail, not a mohawk), in the overall scheme its not that big a deal

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