- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I hate coming on here to air dirty laundry, but I really need some advice, or some support, or something.
Long and short of the situation-
Sister BM has insecurity issues, and a bad habit of dating men who have issues. These are always volatile relationships with lots of fighting, drama, on-again/off-again non-sense.
She now has a child from one of these relationships- it ended shortly before the child was born, and she started dating another guy about a week after my niece was born, and 6 months later she was pregnant again. She will be 8 months pregnant at my wedding.
And, wonder of wonders, this relationship also ended already.
So, even though I realize that my sister dates guys I don’t like, and that my parents usually hate, I offered her a +1. This is what you do for your bridesmaids, right?
Now she’s asked her most recent ex-boyfriend (and the father of the baby she’s carrying) to come as her date. He’s agreed, but admitted he feels weird about it since they’re no longer together.
To be honest, Bees, I feel weird about it too. I have *tried* to like this guy, and he’s always been nice around me and to me. But he has serious issues. He has untreated bipolar disorder due to the fact that he also has seziures, and apparently the meds for one make the other worse, and vice versa.
Sometimes he and my sister get along wonderfully, and other times they fight to the point where things get broken (like her laptop, which he basically smashed to bits). It’s just… scary, to be honest. I know he can’t control it, but I just don’t like the situation.
And to be honest, Bees, I don’t like the idea of her bringing him. My father dislikes him, and FI and my brother aren’t exactly big fans of him.
But, at the same time, I feel like I’m not in a position to say to my sister “Hey, you’re allowed to bring a date, but not any of your ex-boyfriends, even if one of them is the father of your child”.
I’m really not sure what to do…I just need some advice, or at least some supportive comments.