Post # 1
Alirght who doesn’t love sister drama,
My older sister who is already married with 1 baby, found out she was pregnant around the same time she knew when we were thinking about gettingmarried. We set our date and she will be 7 months pregnant at that time. She is freaking out that she can’t make it and hates me for choosing that date on purpose to exclude her. She knows i want her there, and I can’t seem to understand why its so hard for her to travel then. Any thoughts? The date is set and staying so, I am confused on what to do with convincing her to come?
Post # 3
How far does she have to travel? At 7 months pregnant she might be too uncomfortable for car trips!
Post # 4
Where is the wedding and how would she have to travel to get there? Obviously she’ll be in her third trimester and be getting bigger, making it hard to be comfortable in one spot for a long period of time (ie no flying and uncomfortable in a car for several hours at once).
If it’s close, I wouldn’t think it’d be a problem. But if it’s more than a few hours away, I can understand why she doesn’t think she could make it and might be upset.
Post # 5
I think you should keep your date. It’s your day. My older sister lives in Paris, and she will make her way to Virginia one way or another! If she can’t, there’s always video. ha. You just can’t change your date to acommodate everyone.
Post # 6
I’ve never had a kid, but I have had friends who have had travel restrictions put on them in their 3rd trimester. Seven months along is probably too close for comfort to the due date.
If the wedding is in the same town that your sister lives in and there is no traveling, I wouldn’t stress about it. Only when travel is concerened would I re-evaluate the dates/venue.
@as2…I agree that people shouldn’t change their day to accomodate everyone. But this is her sister who will be 7 months along. It’s easy to say that siblings can be there one way or another, but if her sister is 7 months pregnant and literally can not make the trip, I think that’s a bit harsh.
Post # 7
Is she flying?
I dunno, my SIL was 7 months pregnant at our wedding. I think my eyes would’ve popped outta my head if she got MAD at us for setting our date. Then again, she got pregnant 6 months after we set our date so there wasn’t a lot that could be done. She wore flip flops that day (she was bummed b/c she bought heels but her feet swelled and then they didn’t fit) but she danced and had fun that night, too.
Another friend of mine is 7 months and she’s big, but she’s not incapable of travel yet. Maybe flying, I don’t know. I guess it all depends on your sister’s situation. She just took a 6 hour car trip to Kansas, no complaining.
Post # 8
It definitely is your day, but she’s also your sister and you knew she was pregant when you set the date. I’ve come to learn that while the wedding is “your day” it’s also a day for family and friends too, and you can anger a lot of people by disregarding them in your plans.
Post # 9
It definitely depends on how far away she is… I’m a plane ride away from my sisters, and truthfully I’d be furious if they picked a wedding date knowing that I absolutely couldn’t be there for it for medical reasons.
Post # 10
This kind of happened to my friend. She set her date with the church, venue and all then her sister announced her pregnancy. She happened to be due 3 days before the wedding and she wanted my friend to move her date which wasn’t impossible but a lot of things were set already. This caused some drama but I didn’t think it was fair for her sister to do that especially after the date was set. In the end, the sister missed the wedding and caught the ceremony by cell phone which the MOB held up during it.
Let us know more about the traveling that may be needed so we can understand more. I know I will be hitting 7months next week and I can tell you that traveling is very uncomfy for me and I have a 2 hour commute everyday. Very shortly I will be limiting my travels because we will be too close to the due date and I don’t want to take a chance on having a baby outside of where we planned it. Also, by that time your sister may have travel restrictions put on her from her doctor.
Post # 11
I agree that it reallly depends of far the sister will need to travel. Each person is different I know I was able to travel by car pretty close to the end of both of my pregnancys. Also, what vendors have been booked. If nothing isbooked yet, I would consider changing it for my sister. We had several dates in mind and had to change due to vendors anyways.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your comments!! I really appreciate your advice.
Post # 13
I am so sick and tired of everyone getting pregnant around me and due around the time of our wedding. We set our date 1.5 years ago and haven’t changed it for graduations or preganancies and I won’t tolerate anyone trying to steal our thunder with their pregnancy announcements.
We have a 7 month pregnant friend driving 10 hours from MI to attend. We didn’t ask or expect her to do this, she is doing it out of love. If she had gotten MAD at us for our date, well, we probably wouldn’t be freinds anymore. I think people need to get over themselves and let the spotlight be on the bride and groom for once.