(Closed) sister drama- what's your take on this??? LONG

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@BelleFille:  I’m not condoning her behavior at all, but a destination wedding can be very expensive.  Sure she got a bonus and wants to go to Las Vegas… but it’s her money and she can spend it how she likes.  Honestly, the Las Vegas trip is a non-issue, it has nothing to do with you, your wedding, etc. 

Again, her attitude is pretty crappy.  I’d just give it some time, let both of you cool off, the re-address.  When you talk about it again I’d throw in what you mentioned here, helping pay for the trip, the dress, etc.  Cooler heads always prevail, so give her some time to absorb everything and fingers crossed, she’ll be more open and accepting.

Do you intend having her in the bridal party?  If yes, I would definitely wait a little while, at least until the engagement is official (honestly, you should probably wait even longer, see where she’s at). 

For what it’s worth, weddings tend to intensify family drama.  If she doesn’t come around, you have to do what’s right for you and your fiance and let the other stuff go.  You can’t change everyone else, you can’t expect everyone to be as excited as you are, etc.  Just focus on yourselves, your wedding, and your future together.  All the other stuff is nonsense.

Good luck, I hope she comes around.

Post # 4
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BelleFille:  Your sister’s behavior is appalling and quite frankly I do not see it improving once you are offically engaged. Please plan the wedding of your dreams and keep her at arms length. If she is still behaving like this, do not include her in your wedding party. She will bring more drama.

Post # 5
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I kind of have a different take on it. I feel that if someone plans a Destination Wedding then you have to be prepared for some not to come, yes even siblings. DW’s are great but not every one’s in the same financial bracket so can’t afford the same resorts, flights etc. I think it’s only right to ask but let them know that as much as you would love to have them there youknow that not everyone can do that. I know it’s your sister but Destination Wedding ‘s are such a big commitment for people, even family.

Post # 6
747 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


Post # 7
3303 posts
Sugar bee

I firmly believe there are women out here who get jealous once one of their siblings are about to get married, partially because that ship has sailed for her and she has nothing equivalently huge to look forward to. I don’t think this is about cost, as if she really cared, cost would be a non-factor. When you get engaged and start planning, leave her out of it. She won’t be supportive and you don’t want this to dampen this special time in your life.

Post # 8
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Apparently the women in uniform have it. LuvMySailor and ArmyChica are spot on.

Post # 10
7421 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

While I agree that Destination Wedding can be expensive for guests, she had no right to carry on the way that she did. Just keep planning YOUR wedding the way that you and your fiance see fit (just like she had the oppty to). Don’t let her try to take away your joy, any more than she already has.

Post # 11
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@armychica06:  100% agree that goes for best friends as well!

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