Post # 1
First of all, the “related topics” makes me glad I’m not the only one dealing with family drama.
My sister got engaged last week, and I’ve been engaged for a little over two years. I’m getting married in early October; she decided yesterday that she and her Fiance would be getting married in early September. First it was a wedding when MY Fiance couldn’t come (he’s the officiant in a friend’s wedding) and she wasn’t going to change it; then I said smoething (and, I’m ashamed to say, said something to my folks, too) and now it looks like it will be the middle of September instead.
I wish it didn’t bother me; I wish I could JUST be happy for her, instead of being happy for her and annoyed about all of the inconveniences that will come from two weddings at once, and sad about how unspecial Fiance & my wedding will seem now that it’s the second in less than a month for my family.
I wouldn’t blame if a lot of people in this thread call me a B**ch or a bridezilla, but it’s a situatino that’s bothering me, and seems to be bothering others as well. Sigh.
Makes me wish we could cancel the whole shebang and just not make it a big dramatic situation. It’s supposed to be about just Fiance and I getting married, and not a situation that makes me so unhappy, right?
Post # 3
I totally agree with you, you have been planning for how long? not ok. I think there needs to be a family meeting without the FIs and as a family you all need to be able to express your feelings and come up with something that will work.
Post # 4
Has October been your wedding date for a long time?
Post # 5
Yeah, we set the date about a year and a half ago.
Post # 6
i will not call you name because your feelings are valid but you chose to have a 2yr engagment and i dont think your sister should put her plans on hold considering you are getting married a month apart.
im sure your wedding will be special, you have had much longer to plan so try to relax and enjoy both your and your sisters wedding
Post # 7
I’m sorry. It does kind of suck having two weddings close to each other in the same family. Fiance and I got engaged, and four days later FI’s older sister gets engaged. 🙁 It just kind of sucks. Our weddings are a little less than two months apart. I don’t have any advice, as I’m going through the same thing. 🙁 If it helps, I feel your pain!
Post # 8
I understand that you are frustated. I don’t think because your sister is getting married the month before that makes your wedding any less special. I think your family will be very happy for both of you. Just don’t dwell on it and have fun making plans for your wedding.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be excited either…my sister and I got engaged days apart and our parents sat us down and asked us specifically not to do…that.
I’m sorry because I know it’s really hard to not look like a jerk feeling the way you do…but I get it.
Post # 10
I know you only get one day, but this is annoying.
Post # 11
I can understand how this would be VERY annoying when all your plans were made first.
Post # 12
I’m the sister that got engaged after and set our date 3 months before my sisters….
BUT, my sister has been engaged 2 years already, and by the time they get married it will be almost 4 years….
We chose our date because it works with my work schedule (I can only have certain times of the year off because I work in schools)….and we couldn’t get married in 6 months (we’re paying for our own wedding so we have to save) and we didn’t want a long engagement because I don’t see the point….a year and a half was perfect for us…..
I have had the backlash from my sister over it….but I’m not apologizing that I can only have certain times of the year off because of my work, I’ve had this job for almost 8 years so she KNOWS this and that I would have a summer wedding anyways….She just assumed that we would never get married….and last I had heard was that they were pushing it back a year which they are not now….
So, even though it’s annoying, people can’t schedule their lives around you….I would just ignore this, and go on with your planning….I would not let this drive a wedge between you and your sister….right now I have a feeling my sister isn’t talking to me since i never hear from her…..and she used to call me weekly…..*shrug* that’s her choice….I can’t do anything about it…..it’s her choice if she feels that way about when my wedding date is….
Post # 13
I hate to admit it, but that would bother me too. I’m sorry it’s not turning out ideal for you, I hope you are able to come to terms with it and make the best out of it. You aren’t a bridezilla, I think anyone would be a bit dismayed to have a siblings wedding the montn before theres.
Post # 14
@smcs28: Your situation sounds very different, especially with the restrictions from your work, but thank you for bringing the other perspective to this.
And thank you everyone for reading. I mostly just needed to vent. We’ll see how it all goes…
Post # 15
I think it’s extremely inconsiderate of your sister to do this, especially if she doesn’t have a particularly good reason for it. I would be livid!
Post # 16
WOW…. have your inviations gone out yet? Can you move your date up? I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I would be upset too.