Post # 1
My sister is my best friend and has been for many years. She is my maid of honor and has been since I got engaged on Sept 23 2012. Long story, she has another friend that got engaged about 2 weeks before me and was also her bridesmaid (she was later promoted to maid of honor in her friends wedding) Her friends fiance has tons of money and they are able to have a fairly lavish affair and book venues and such asap. My sister did not realize till 3 days ago that our weddings are on the same weekend. Mine the 16th hers the 17th, she has advised me that because her wedding venue was booked before mine her friends wedding takes priorty and “how could I do this to her” Well her friends wedding has been booked at a B&B and they will all be meeting at 6pm on the 16th to decorate the B&B and have the rehearsal, they all the ladies are staying at the B&B for the night.
My sister has told me that she might be able to attend my ceremony as a guest but she wont be in my bridal party or attend the reception because “she gave her word to her other friend”
Why in the world would you not have mentioned asap when I booked my venue that you were unavailable that weekend!!! Im so angry and sad! When I called around to see if I could change my date every single hall in my town was booked. I have to postpone till Aug 2014!!! All because she never took a moment to think hey maybe I should check to see if the 2 weddings I am in are on the same date.
If it was the other way around and I was in 2 wedding and one bride had already booked you can bet your sweet ass that I would have told the other bride hey jsut so you know this is my friends wedding and I will be unavailable for this entire weekend “insert friends wedding date here”
Her only response is that this is my fault and I should have checked with ehr before booking anything…..we went to a wedding fair together 6 weeks ago and i said my wedding date like 85 times to many vendors and have told her many many times.
Thanks for reading im just very sad and upset 🙁
As of now I have moved everything to 2014 so about 17 months away 🙁
Post # 3
sorry but your sister is SO OUT OF LINE.
I don’t care how close she is with her, you are her blood. And that’s a low blow to you. She will feel regretful if she follows through with this.
Post # 4
@tampalove35: totally agree..not only is she your best friend, she’s your sister..way outta line
Post # 5
@FutureMrsRoos: Why move it? Seriously, if she is that rude, why bother moving it for her?
Post # 6
If you expect to continue having a close relationship with your sister…I would just avoid the blame game and let it slide off your back–give MoH duties to someone else and just go with the original plans. If she chooses to go to your wedding instead, then that’s on her but you should have a Plan B.
Post # 7
Um WHAT? She is your SISTER. You take the cake over her friend. End of story. And she should feel like a jerk, NOT you. Did you already move everything over?
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
when I read the title of this thread, I thought “I don’t think so!” and I continue that feeling after reading your post.
I would be absolutely heartbroken if my sister did something like that. how far apart (geographically) are your wedding and the friend’s wedding? I don’t see why she can’t do both if they are on different days, even if she wouldn’t be able to make it to your rehearsal dinner.
Post # 9
Completely agree with the others. I don’t even know what I’d do if one of my sisters said they had to back out of my wedding to attend a friend’s wedding. You are 100% right in this situation.
Post # 10
I would definitely not have changed my wedding date. This is her issue, not yours.
Post # 11
@FutureMrsRoos: your sister is a bitch. sorry if that sounds harsh, but its true. the weddings are on different days… are they within a few hours of each other? can she travel from one to the other in the time alotted? And if not… f*** that noise, she’s your sister. SHE SHOULD CHOOSE YOU.
Post # 12
I agree she should choose me but she says that because her friends wedding was planned first and she gave her word to her that she cant just back out.
The weddings are about 20 minutes apart, she could totally go to both….she just wont because she gave her word to the other girl 🙁
Post # 13
I’m chiming in with everyone else here. You should NOT have changed your date. Your sister should have dropped out of the OTHER wedding and not yours.
Post # 14
I sure as heck wouldn’t change my date for THIS REASON
I’d either pick another Maid/Matron of Honor… or I’d work around whatever timeframe is available with my Sister as the Maid/Matron of Honor (Wedding A on one day, and Wedding B the next… even in different cities is do-able IMO)
In all honesty… as your sister, and as you the Bride… she should be KEEN to help you out (work around things) vs you having to bend over for backwards for her needs
And the nerve of her… reaming you out. What is up with that ???
To somehow EXPECT you to change the date / push back your Wedding to accomodate her is crazy.
She is literally asking you to push back your Wedding (and happiness) from November 2013… to a whole NINE months later to August 2014
That is BEYOND ridiculous…
And to think you are considering it / or worse yet doing it…
Well, frankly my dear, you are giving over too much power to this sister…
I’d be more concerned about WHY you think this is necessary to PLEASE her… what about you and your Beloved in this sceario. I’m very curious as to what kind of issues you have with your sister, and your own self-esteem !!
Post # 15
Really, do NOT switch, if you haven’t given up your bookings yet. There’s no way in hell you should feel like you have to do that just because she says she’s going to miss your wedding not to be an another wedding but to decoarate the night before another wedding. That’s a gigantic pile of nonsense. Can your parents intervene? Your sister must have just about lost her mind….
Post # 16
@This Time Round: completely agree. The fact that you’re bending over for her like this is almost weirder than her own messed up reaction.