- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
If I was in your shoes and my parents were paying for my sister’s wedding but not mine, I would not handle that very well at all! Is there a reason they are only paying for her wedding and not yours?
@Hike4life: I’m sorry 🙁 I would be really upset if my parents decided to pay for a sibling’s wedding but not mine. Is there a reason behind it? I could understand more if she’s younger and isn’t financially able (but in my opinion that means she should wait!) while you are pretty established, but it doesn’t really seem that’s the case. It would be different if they offered and you declined so you could have full control, but it really sucks that they didn’t even offer.
Yeah, did they offer to pay for yours? I would be really bummed out if they offered for my sister but not for me!
that seems a bit unfair. did your parents offer to pay for yours?
If they offered help and you declined, I wouldn’t be upset if she is taking that help. However, if they never offered to you and offered to her I’d be upset.
FI’s family is well off. We aren’t asking for any money from them. If his sister was getting married, I’m sure it would be paid for. I wouldn’t trade my wedding for the world, because it will be exactly what I want. Be happy with your chocies! I’d rather afford something on my own with no strings attached.
Is there a reason they’re paying for hers and not yours? That seems unfair but we don’t know the whole story on this.
As for her getting married before you, there is nothing you can do about that so I’d let that go. It’s not worth getting pent up over.
Like PPs, I’m interested in knowing why your sister is getting help with the wedding from your parents but you aren’t. I can also understand that I would feel a little bit sad to have to share a wedding year (not to mention so close together) with my own sister. It’s different if it’s a cousin or close friend, but to have literally like all of the same family members and people that will be attending both that can be a little bit upsetting because all of those people have to be excited for two couples instead of just one.
Wow, it seems really unfair and awkward of your parents to not offer to pay for your wedding as well…like others, I’m very curious to know the reasoning behind this!
They offered to pay, but then took it back once my SO and I wanted to push the wedding back. We wanted to make sure everything was set and felt 1000% sure. I am one of those that is very detail oriented and likes to take my time when taking such a big step. So they took the money away because they thought we were a problem couple. Clearly we are not. Still together and work toward a successful relationship. I’ve been with my SO for 3 years and we know each other very well. My sister has been with this man a little over a year. So, ya. It is a hard pill to swallow. I just do not know how to act with my parents. They treat me so differently compared to my sister. Even my mom said she knows she doesn’t show me unconditional love like she does to my sister.
Im trying to be the bigger person, but it is hard.
It was not my choice for us to pay for our own wedding. The money was offered and then withdrawn. Now I understand it is there money and they can do with it as they please. But to offer and then take it away bc we want to be smart and not rush into marriage like many people…. And now they are paying for my sisters! To me, it just doesn’t sit right.
And my SO is a really great guy…great job, good credit, no debt, is well liked, Etc. we just wanted to be smart and take out time. We are set to get married in July and had to really really cut bc my parents withdrew the money.
Thanks Bee’s! I think I’ll try to be the bigger person and just let this go. It will be hard to do, but I’ll make it!