Sister Got Engaged…But…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I was in your shoes and my parents were paying for my sister’s wedding but not mine, I would not handle that very well at all! Is there a reason they are only paying for her wedding and not yours?

Post # 4
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442 posts
Helper bee

@Hike4life:  I’m sorry 🙁 I would be really upset if my parents decided to pay for a sibling’s wedding but not mine. Is there a reason behind it? I could understand more if she’s younger and isn’t financially able (but in my opinion that means she should wait!) while you are pretty established, but it doesn’t really seem that’s the case. It would be different if they offered and you declined so you could have full control, but it really sucks that they didn’t even offer.

Post # 5
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yeah, did they offer to pay for yours? I would be really bummed out if they offered for my sister but not for me!

Post # 6
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

that seems a bit unfair.  did your parents offer to pay for yours?

Post # 7
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1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

If they offered help and you declined, I wouldn’t be upset if she is taking that help.  However, if they never offered to you and offered to her I’d be upset.

FI’s family is well off.  We aren’t asking for any money from them.  If his sister was getting married, I’m sure it would be paid for.  I wouldn’t trade my wedding for the world, because it will be exactly what I want.  Be happy with your chocies!  I’d rather afford something on my own with no strings attached.

Post # 8
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Is there a reason they’re paying for hers and not yours? That seems unfair but we don’t know the whole story on this. 

 

As for her getting married before you, there is nothing you can do about that so I’d let that go. It’s not worth getting pent up over.

 

Post # 9
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1802 posts
Buzzing bee

Like PPs, I’m interested in knowing why your sister is getting help with the wedding from your parents but you aren’t. I can also understand that I would feel a little bit sad to have to share a wedding year (not to mention so close together) with my own sister. It’s different if it’s a cousin or close friend, but to have literally like all of the same family members and people that will be attending both that can be a little bit upsetting because all of those people have to be excited for two couples instead of just one.

Post # 10
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2165 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow, it seems really unfair and awkward of your parents to not offer to pay for your wedding as well…like others, I’m very curious to know the reasoning behind this!  

Post # 12
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1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Hike4life:  it sounds like it was your choice to pay for your own wedding.  I bet if you ask for help they would give it. 

Post # 14
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

@Hike4life:  Hopefully,  for relationships’ sake, your parents will be fair and help you too. Hopefully that is the plan, but they haven’t informed you.

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